Finding I in We
Finding ‘I’ in ‘We,’ what does that mean and how can you discover the real you when with another person? In this episode of Apple Flavored Pomegranate, Tonya Dawn and Justin Recla talk about dedicating one’s existence to walking toward oneness together. Walking the path as separate individuals is not as satisfying as walking together. Through collaboration, we allow for the developmental process of each person involved. Also, it provides that the “WEness” factor be present in a relationship to evolve. Tune in to know how to find you’re I in We.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Hello everyone. And welcome back to The Apple Flavored Pomegranate. I am Tonya Dawn Recla here with my hunk, hunks, and burning love, Justin Recla. Do you want to say hello?
Justin Recla:
Hello everybody.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Oh, you are saying hello.
Justin Recla:
How are you?
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Beautiful. Beautiful. We are gathered here today, manage, no, just kidding. That’s not the quote. So we are talking today about finding I in we, and this comes up a lot in conversations in terms of oneness. As you can imagine, dedicating our existence to walking toward oneness together, kind of brings up some questions for the individual self at times, right? That avatar that we all are.
Justin Recla:
What are you saying?
Tonya Dawn Recla:
I’m speaking of course for a friend, and anyway, so how does that look, right? And this actually is really connected to what we’ve learned about collaboration. If you’ve had a chance to read my article, do you suffer from premature collaboration? This is one of the points in there where it talks about how if the self hasn’t actualized, doesn’t know itself to have been successful in the actualization process, then it will step into collaboration seeking to still discover itself.
Now, there’s always some aspect of discovery that happens when we join in with others, but there’s a difference between coming into it, knowing who you are, versus finding yourself, right? Knowing who you are and discovering new aspects of yourself is a beautiful thing to happen in collaboration. Not knowing who you are and looking for yourself to be defined from within that collaboration creates inequities within that. Energetic imbalance, essentially. So, how do we do this, right? How do we allow for the developmental process of each person involved, and also allow for that wellness factor to be present in a relationship to also evolve, which is important, right?
Justin Recla:
And that, how do you find yourself in that? How does the relationship container evolve beyond the I, but still keep because the relationship container requires both parties in order to be in it? So how does that balance work out?
Tonya Dawn Recla:
It well exactly. And keep in mind, we’re coming at this from the lens of, we weren’t satisfied with the experience of being two separate individuals walking this path together. That was is one way to do it. I mean, I guess I should say I wasn’t satisfied. Maybe Justin would’ve been satisfied with it, but for sure now he’s not.
Justin Recla:
The caveman, pound my chest. I am a man who does what’s right. That old paradigm in the traditional mindset? Absolutely. But in my journey, hell no.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
He’s like I’m opting for what’s behind door number two.
Justin Recla:
The door.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
And you, it happens, you get a taste of it folks and you can’t be satisfied with anything else. Then I’m talking about that ecstatic dance we each get to do individually with the divine and the even more ecstatic dance that we get to do in co-creation with someone else. So, Justin’s going to share the poem that he has selected for today’s episode, and then we’ll cut to a break. Go ahead, my love.
Justin Recla:
So this one is from The Complete Poems of Emily Dickinson and edited by Thomas H. Johnson. Here we go. This is poem 1106:
We do not know the time we lose. The awful moment is and takes its fundamental place among the certainties. A firm appearance still inflates the card, the chance, the friend, the specter of solidities whose substances are sand.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Beautiful. We’ll dive into that after the break folks, we’re talking today all about finding I in we. Thank you, love, for that beautiful reading of the poem. Remember to go to superpowerexperts.com folks, and connect with us. So many ways that you can join up with us there. In the Community, we have our connection groups. We also have CEFA. Make sure you get signed up for that. If you want to learn how to hold that creative center and then not be swayed by vibrations and energies coming at you from the world, join in this movement of love, connection, and guidance that we have been so passionately sharing with you over the years. We welcome you there, and we hope you’ll join us. Stay with us. We’ll be right back after the break.
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