Ryan Andrews, best-selling author and entrepreneur, joins Tonya Dawn Recla to talk about the strategy of true power using perseverance and fun. Ryan created a proven system to find passion and purpose. His ALIVE program develops leaders, builds relationships and connects families. He uses brain science, biochemistry and cutting edge Positive Psychology to step people through the areas that are holding them back. Ryan’s mission is to represent life turned on in every moment and to show others the power of living from purpose, passion and joy. Listen in as he shares with Tonya his journey back to true power and fun.
Hello everyone. This is Tonya Dawn Recla, your Super Power Expert and I am so excited for a really fun-packed show today. We have with us today Ryan Andrews. Ryan is the fun guru. He is the master of fun. He is like, you know, the Jedi knight with the fun-ness. And so we’re, I’m really excited to have him on today because he brings us this really cool twist to things. You know, when I first met him and really got a chance to sit down and connect with him, it’s just amazing the light that like exudes off of him and how he’s able to really overlay things with this concept of fun. And I’m of the opinion that it’s severely lacking currently in our society so I’m all for a little more fun in the conversation. So I’m really excited to have him share some of that perspective with us today. So please join me in welcoming Ryan Andrews to the show. Welcome, Ryan.
Thank you so much. And what a great introduction. I love being touted for my fun and I tell you what, it was not that many years ago that I didn’t know how to have fun.
I love that. I’m really excited to get into all of that. And let’s jump right in by asking you, what are your superpowers?
My superpowers are different than most people. I would call myself a spontaneous strategist and I’m counter-intuitive there but it is and I’m a change expert.
I like it. I like it. So tell us more about those.
Well, you know, I’ve always loved spontaneity. I love just kind of like receiving the world as it comes to me. But at the same time, I’m very strategic in I can see the pathway down, you know, five, six, seven, eight moves ahead. And if I do this, what’s it going to look like down there and then if I move here what’s it going look like over there and the joy for me is in having it happen kind of like rapid fire on the move being spontaneous. So that’s kind of the impetus for that one as it were. And the other part is, as a change expert, I realized that I love change so much and a lot of people don’t like change. My sister, being one, so we were raised by the same parents. And she does not like change at all. She wants to be exactly the same. She wants, you know, she has a specific way that she does it, and she does not like change. But I’m the opposite. I love change. And in the process of that, I’ve discovered that there is a lot of power in learning how to be flexible and really desiring change when staying the same is painful.
Absolutely. So what do you attribute that to? Why you…why do you have this propensity for change and you know perhaps others don’t? What cultivated that for you?
I remember early on I’m going to say high school. I think it was my sophomore year. I had a teacher come up to me and he said, “Ryan why didn’t you do your homework?” and I said, “Well…” you know, I tempted to. I was tempted to kind of do the typical high school lie and, oh I was busy I couldn’t make it, I was sick, the dog ate the homework that kind of thing. And what I ended up doing was I told the truth 100 percent. I was just super truthful about it. I said you know, to be honest with you, my friends came over they wanted to play football outside and I thought you know what, I’m OK with getting a B in this class and I want to go play football. So I decided to do that instead. And the look on his face was priceless. He didn’t know what to say because he knew that, yeah, I am probably going to get a B in this class and you’re OK with a B. What do I say? I mean he had nothing to say. And that moment I realized that being truthful about where you’re at in your situation really is powerful. And it’s a process of that is if you take that internally and you’re just as truthful internally as you are externally I think change becomes fun and easy.
I really love that concept of being truthful internally I think that I had a dialogue with our daughter. You know, we dialogue a lot about these things. And she…she was asking me if somebody was lying and I said, well, you know, that’s really actually more complex of a question than, you know, she probably realized. So we talked a lot about how you know it’s… there are all these different ways to explain the truth, you know, through or to exude that through words, the body language, through energy you know. And a lot of times people aren’t even all that connected within themselves to know whether they’re even lying to themselves or not. And so, you know, like it was a really cool conversation, and how it unfolded just kind of dived into what does that even mean? Like at what level do we lie to ourselves or to others and can we really lie, you know, with the work that we do energetically? It’s like, you know any more I pretty vocal to tell people like you’re never the most intuitive person in a room anymore like it’s just like go in with that idea and feel like you know even if you’re not doing that internal dialogue and making sure that in my language, you know, all your pieces of parts are kind of on board with whatever it is that you’re exuding at that moment, it’s going to be obvious to somebody. And so for you to learn that at a younger age where it’s like wow it’s really liberating to be able to say, you know, why didn’t I do that? I guess I really just didn’t want to.
Absolutely. And I think there are two sides of it too, right? Like so this kind of borders on being vulnerable and being open to people. And I tell people a lot I say, you know, there are two forms of vulnerability there’s appropriate vulnerability and inappropriate vulnerability. And it’s the same thing with truth and speaking the truth and even being overly honest with yourself because it’s not…sometimes we take things a little bit too far. And here’s my example. If you’re standing naked in the bathroom that’s vulnerable. If you’re standing naked in the grocery store that’s inappropriately vulnerable.
That’s pretty clear.
Right? I mean there are definite times where it’s important that they are not overly vulnerable.
And it’s the same thing with truth, you know, facts don’t have any meaning on them in and of themselves. If you can take a glass of water, right, the half full half empty thing. And if that glass of water is, you know, has four ounces of water in it and four ounces of air, those are facts. In and of themselves they don’t have any meaning. If you just drank half of that cu