Kelsey Abbott, is a Confidence Coach & Instigator of Joy, she joins Jennifer Urezzio on the SuperPowers of the Soul show to share her tools about letting go of the “shoulds” to develop self-confidence. Kelsey has the ability to really see an individual’s awesome and she wants everyone to see it for themselves. Listen in as Kelsey and Jennifer provide tangible tools to develop your self-confidence so you can begin to see that you are whole and complete and express that in the world.
Hello everyone, and welcome. I’m Jennifer Urezzio, Super Power Expert. I’m founder of Soul Language. This is SuperPowers of the Soul. I get to talk to Kelsey Abbott today, and we’re talking about developing self-confidence. I’m so excited to talk to her because she just kicks ass. I can say ass because it’s my podcast. Kelsey, how are you?
I’m great, thank you. How are you today?
I’m doing well. It’s been a bit of a crazy couple days, but everything’s shaking out. I always like to start with a first question, because this is called SuperPowers of the Soul. What’s your super power?
I have a lot of them, but my big one is being able to see people. Really, truly see people.
Just so people understand what that truly means, because I think some people.. What was I watching the other day? Oh, I was watching this new Netflix movie and the guy said to the girl you have to tell her that you see her. The guy goes, the guy that he’s like guidance, goes what does that mean? He goes, “I don’t know, but she’ll love it.” What do you mean by, because I know what you mean, but I want everyone that’s listening to know what that means, to actually see somebody.
It means I see their, this sounds freaky, but I see their soul.
Not at all. I love it.
I see what’s possible. I see their hearts. I see love. I see what’s under the mask.
Which is so funny, because I think a lot of us go through life with this façade and we think that we aren’t seen, but a lot of people do see beyond that. What I think is really great about you is you see beyond that, and where people are in that limited, where they can’t see that for themselves, you help walk them through so they can really start to see that for themselves. What do you consider your sacred purpose? Now, sacred purpose, just so we all agree again, is about what we are profoundly here to experience and then offer that experience to others.
I am here to change the world. To help people love themselves. To help them see themselves. And to help encourage them to then change the world.
That, of course, reflects in the work that you do, because I think when people start to really, and for me when we’re talking about seeing people, for me that’s understanding that I’m whole and complete and that you’re whole and complete and that if I’m going to treat myself like I’m whole and complete then I must treat you like you’re whole and complete, and I think that that takes a lot of internal readjusting and then it takes active conscious participation. I think that that takes a lot of self-confidence, which we’re gonna talk about later on, and a lot of courage to do that. How does this changing the world, helping people see themselves, and walking them through that process, how does that reflect back in the work that you do in the world?
I believe that we all have within us this inner genius, inner brilliance, inner badass. I call it our awesome. It is completely unique to each one of us. When I talk about seeing people, I see people’s awesome. It’s under the mask. As we get older, as we fumble our way through this life thing, we get told you should do this. You should do this. You should do it this way. You should be normal. Do it like everyone else. Follow the rules. All these shoulds are just piled on top of us, and it becomes scary to go against those shoulders so we follow them. Those become our masks. Trying to fit in, trying to be the person that everyone else tells us we’re supposed to be. I help people dig through that and find their awesome and truly step into it so that they are whole and complete on every level. Because, we are all whole and complete, and so few of us know that.
I would agree with that.
We really embody our power when we know that with our entire being. I help people get to that place of true alignment, and that’s where they become unstoppable. That’s where things easy, as in filled with ease. Life throws us a bunch of curve balls, but when we are aligned, when we’re doing what we’re supposed to be doing, which by the way is completely different for each individual, which is why we’re all here, so we can all work together, when we’re in that place where we are aligned, we’re in flow. We’re no longer forcing, we’re no longer fighting, we’re no longer trying to muscle through things.
We’re no longer at conflict with ourselves, so we tend to do those things that create peace and harmony within us and then that allows us to attract more of those situations and it allows us not to get in some of the curve balls because we’re coming from a place of power and completeness. Everyone, you probably just heard Mushu, who’s looking for treats because he doesn’t feel whole and complete without them. My God, he’s like addicted to those things. What has been this common theme that your soul has shared with you? That could be a common theme of goodness and that also could be a common theme which is really what your ego has shared with you. What’s been this common theme that has driven your journey?
It’s like worth, and that’s it. We’re done. You know what I mean?
That is such a powerful thing. We talk about it with a lot of different individuals on this podcast and I talk about it in the stuff that I do. One of my favorite questions to ask people is if you knew you were worthy, what would you say, what would you be, what would you do? Because that changes the ballgame. How is this topic of worth displayed in your life and in your journey?
Oh goodness. My inner critic used to tell me I wasn’t worthy. I wasn’t worthy of, well anything. I wasn’t good enough. I remember in grade school, walking down the hall, I remember the rhythm of my feet on the linoleum and matching to my footsteps matching the words I hate myself, I hate myself, I hate myself. I’ve always been different, and I hated being different. Maybe I was 10, and all those shoulda had already piled on me so much that I just wanted to be like everyone else. I figured that would make me worthy.
Wow. That’s really powerful.
Before we start to talk about the solution and developing self-confidence, let’s give out your website so everyone knows how to get in touch with you and get more of you.
My website is kelseyabbott.com.
Okay everyone, I want you to stay tuned so you can understand how to develop self-confidence.