Tonya Dawn Recla talks about being real and honest as you master the art of following your intuition. She explains how listening and taking action in accordance with intuitive guidance sometimes means honoring yourself and speaking up. She talks about a recent interaction and provides helpful tips for following your own intuition.
Hello, everyone. This Tonya Dawn Recla, your Super Power Expert, and I’m going to do something a little bit different today. Today, I’m going to talk about the art of following intuition, but I’m going to talk about a specific person. I told her today … yeah, that was today … that she just immediately became one of my favorite people, and the reason why was because she followed her intuition. So I’m going to talk today about Rachel Archelaus. Rachel, this is for you.
Rachel and I have never met. She was scheduled to be on the podcast. I don’t even remember when the initial date was. We had to reschedule because some events came up, and I had to move my schedule around. And then the second time I was set to interview her, we ended up having to travel, and so I was going to do it from the road, and it was noisy and she was so gracious and so loving and said, “You know, that’s fine. We’ll reschedule.” The third reschedule was today, and I can’t even tell you what happened. All I know is that the next thing I knew, I was waiting for her to come on the line. I’m like, “Oh, that’s okay. I absolutely can be patient because we’ve rescheduled this poor woman how many times now.” The next thing I knew, I looked down, and there was a message. She had been sitting there, I don’t know how long, and there was no communication happening. It was so bizarre, and I’m sitting there. I said to my husband, I said, “What is going on here? This is not normal.” This is easy. I’ve done many, many, many, many, many interviews, and this was not easy.
I sat there asking that question, and I said … and she and I, while she and I were texting, I was asking her if she wanted to give it a try again. Her response was so beautiful. I’m doing this, Rachel, because I really appreciate the fact that you were willing to tap in and be honest and say, I don’t know really what’s happening here, but this just doesn’t feel like … like, the energy is wonky. Those weren’t her words. Her words were much more graceful than what I’m saying now. But it was so beautiful, and I loved that she called it out. I realized that as the host of this show, I didn’t feel like I had the flexibility to do that. I really wanted to honor her and her time and the fact that we had agreed to interview her. Anyway, I was so touched by that, and I wasn’t shy about that. I wrote her back, and I did. I said, “Laugh out loud. I was just wondering the same thing. And really, kudos for calling it out, which everything that we’re about,” is following that energy and paying attention.
Intuition is not just about okay, the really fun stuff and the okay, I’m going to go do this and where’s the next opportunity. Sometimes, it’s really taking a look and saying, “The energy just doesn’t feel right here” and not really knowing why. She and I could have gotten into a dialogue of the minds of well, this was my experience and this was her experience. Ultimately, none of that mattered. The fact remained that now with three attempts, it wasn’t easy. I don’t know why. Perhaps it’s just to get to this message here. But I really appreciated that. Again, I reiterate. We’ve never met. I don’t know her, other than the fact that I do believe that we’re all connected, and we’re playing a much bigger game than most of us are consciously aware of.
I took the show that we were going to do with Rachel, and I thought about it. I said, you know, I’m going to do it anyway. I’m sure Rachel and I will connect at some point because I just don’t think things like this occur without a bigger meaning. Even if this is the sole meaning, this is my public thanks to her for modeling that. I thought it was beautiful. I’m talking about today the art of following intuition, and this is my dedication. I’ve never dedicated a show, but it is my dedication to Rachel Archelaus. She’s out there doing the work, folks, and modeling it and being honest and being willing to say, “I don’t know. Maybe this isn’t the opportunity that I was meant to have today. Maybe it’s not an opportunity at all for me. Maybe I’m going in a different direction.” Again, I can’t pretend to know what her experience was. All I know is that I received that, and I thought it was so beautiful.
I’m going to take a quick break, and when I come back, I’m going to talk a little bit more about how you can follow your intuition and follow in Rachel’s footsteps and bring a little bit more light and ease into your existence. Stay with me. I’ll be right back.
Awesome. Thank you for sticking with us. This is Tonya Dawn Recla, and you’re listening to the Super Power podcast. Today, I’m talking about the art of following your intuition. While I’m not actually doing an interview, I am doing it in the spirit of connecting with Rachel Archelaus, who’s a young woman who I, again I don’t know. I just wanted to really honor the fact that she’s doing the work in the world that she claims to do.
She does work with intuitive art. Her book is Intuitive Art: Have a Two-Way Conversation with Your Higher Self, which I think is such a beautiful thing. I really wanted to highlight her as someone who walks the talk. I shared at the beginning of the show, if you somehow missed it, an example of an interaction that she and I had and just how much I really appreciated her modeling that. It’s rare. Even in the work that I do, it’s rare to find people who are truly willing to be courageous and say, “You know. This just doesn’t feel right. I’m not really sure what’s happening here and so I’m going to sort through it for myself.” I really just honored the fact that she had the courage to do that.
I promised you before the break that I would offer you some tips or ways that you can get that in touch with your own intuition and model or emulate what Rachel’s modeling. First and foremost, part of it is being willing to question everything. I know a lot of times, especially as entrepreneurs or change agents, light workers, we get caught up in thinking everything’s an opportunity. A lot of times, stuff comes up for us that is simply the opportunity to say no. When it’s not easy, when it doesn’t feel like a good fit, when it’s just not flowing, it’s an opportunity to look at it and say, why is this not easy? And then realizing perhaps where you’re seeping some power, where maybe you’ve abdicated in some capacity or where you’re just being asked to take a little bit of a left or right turn rather than following the path that you’re currently on.
It’s difficult because our society trains us to look for opportunities and take advantage of them. But not all opportunities are our opportunities. Oftentimes, when we chase those, it ends up backfiring on us. So first and foremost, question everything. Secondly, be willing to call it out. A lot of times, we know. I think sometimes we don’t want to hurt people’s feelings. We don’t want people to not like us. Sometimes, it’s simple things. I wrote about this in my book: W.A.R.: The Ultimate Guide to Personal Power and Safety. I wrote about how maybe sometimes you don’t want to go to the movie with your friend. Maybe you just want to sit at home and read a book. For whatever reason, we don’t want to disappoint our friend, so instead, we disappoint ourselves. There’s really no growth, and you’re really not being of value and of service in the world when you operate in a way that is seemingly selfless but ultimately works out to be very selfish because you’re doing it because you don’t want someone to be mad at you or you don’t want someone to not like you or some sort of projection that you have of what may occur.
It’s not the caring, loving place that we pretend it is. So take a hard look at why you do what you do. A lot of times, we hold ourselves to our obligations. I mentioned that at the beginning of the show. I felt like in the situation with Rachel, I felt like I didn’t have flexibility to say that for whatever reason, this doesn’t feel like it’s working out. I don’t know why. Instead, I felt obligated on some level as the host in really honoring those agreements. This is a sticky, kind of fine line situation, and you really have to navigate it at a high frequency because if you start going back on your word and not following through on your obligations, then it’s difficult for people to trust you and for you to even trust yourself.
One of the ways that you can combat that is really being clear in your yes and when you’re saying yes and perhaps give yourself permission to start saying, Right now that sounds that would be a lot of fun. I’m not really sure what the energy in that moment will be. Are you dependent on me saying yes or no right now? And really getting clear with people and giving them an opportunity to say, “Okay, I can be flexible up to this date and then beyond that date, I really need to have a solid answer,” if they have to plan. Start dialoguing in that way. It’s a little bit more cumbersome and perhaps not quite as socially acceptable. I think what you’re going to find is that people will meet you in that space.
Lastly, honor yourself. Even if somebody can’t understand that, even if they’re disappointed, honor yourself. A lot of us are trained and programmed, and we could go on for eons about conspiracy theories as to why that is. Ultimately, we have stories and programs that tell us not to put ourselves first. It’s just not a place that you can be wholly of service if you’re not including yourself in the equation. Honor yourself. You’ve all heard the analogy of filling your own cup before you try to fill someone else’s. You can’t serve from an empty cup. So really work on feeling that for yourself. You may screw up at first. You may say the wrong thing, and you may disappoint people. You may lose friendships over it. But have the courage to traverse that path with yourself and make your relationship with yourself a high priority as well.
So those are my tips on how to follow your intuition. Again, this show was dedicated to Rachel Archelaus. Oh, let me tell you where you can find her. You can find her, and I’m really going to plug you. Sephyrus. Sephyrus.com. And again, we’ll put a link to her book, Intuitive Art: How to Have a Two-Way Conversation with Your Higher Self. We’ll put that on the article page for this particular episode. Again, Rachel, I bless you. I honor you. Beautiful. Beautiful, beautiful exchange today. Thank you for having the courage to meet me in that space and for having the courage to follow your own intuition and guide yourself clearly on your own path. To all of you out there as always, we appreciate your loyalty. Go out. Uncover your superpowers and change the world. Take care, everyone.