Courtney HarrisCourtney Harris is a Life Coach for teens and their parents and she joins Laura Greco on SuperPower Mommas to discuss building confidence in families. Courtney supports tweens and teens and young adults in finding their voice, growing confidence and thriving. All are assisted in overcoming anxiety, disconnection and isolation as they explore their truest sense of self and develop a deep sense of empowerment. In addition, Courtney supports the parents in practicing self-care, growing alongside their children, and developing balanced sensitivity towards the process their rapidly-changing child creations. So join in on the discussion and see how building confidence in parenting can be achieved.

Hello everyone, and welcome to the SuperPower Mommas show. I’m so excited that you are here again, and I am your host Laura Greco. Today, I have a wonderful, lovely guest, Courtney Harris. She is joining me from all the way out in Texas. She’s a lovely woman that I met through networking and a parenting group. She is a life coach for teens and parents. She is actually assisting teens in finding their voice and growing their confidence in thriving, and she encourages the parents of these teens to maintain their own self-care, which also creates an environment of balance and an opportunity to problem-solve in their parenting.

So welcome, Courtney. I’m so excited you’re here, and we are talking on the topic of building confidence in families. So welcome, Courtney.

Hi, Laura. Thanks for having me. I’m so excited about the show and so excited about the ways that you’re sharing these great resources with families.

Aw. Well, I’m so happy to have you here. I’ve had the opportunity to experience on some of your work through our networking. So I’m really excited to have you on this topic that we’re talking about building confidence and families, because it really seems like that is important to your work as well as to all of our work in the parenting-and-child field. But before we begin, what is your superpower, Courtney?

My superpower is to help people, teens, parents

My superpower is to help people, teens, parents.

My superpower … You know what first came to mind when I heard that idea and that question is my gift for advocating for teens and for parents of teens. I think that our society is often describing teens as troubled or as hormonal, or I’m sure as you’re listening, anyone that’s listening can come up with a list of words that we tend to push on to or use to describe teens, and I think they have a pretty bad rap. So, my superpower is to help people, teens, parents, and society at large to reframe that idea, and to really get into a mindset of cherishing the gifts that our teams have and of just loving on them, affirming them, and I really believe that this way of connecting with teenagers could transform so much in our communities and in our society at large.

So that’s my superpower. It’s a pretty big mission. But I’m starting just with loving the teenagers that I get to work with and the teenagers in my life, like my nieces and nephews, and sharing this love and passion with everyone that I get the chance to talk with.

Oh, that’s beautiful. I love that. I love that you’re reframing the attitudes and even the labeling, I would say. There’s a lot of labeling that’s out there now, and I love that you take that and reframe it into something that’s positive and workable in family.

Oh, thank you. Yes, and that’s exactly what it is, right? I’m not saying that, “The teen years are easy breezy.” I’m saying, “Yeah, they are challenging,” and there’s a pathway to finding more peace and ease and really enjoying them as both the teen and as the parents on a much deeper level. So, yeah.

I think about that and your superpower here. How do you see this assisting of the parents and their children? What can you say to that and how that really … What’s the transformation that you see happening in families that you’re working with, with that approach?

Yeah, the biggest, biggest, I guess, end product or … You know, it’s not really ever an end product because we’re always on the journey. But the transformation is deeper connection, deeper understanding. I think that anytime that I work with a family, and I get a sincere head nod from a parent of like, “Oh, yes.” When I see the parents understanding and having maybe even a bit more compassion or a bit more patience with their teenager, like that’s the transformation. Likewise, when I see that from the teen, when I hear a teen explaining, “Oh, I understand why my mom was worried about this,” or, “I understand why this is a big deal to my family,” and they’re gaining a perspective.

They’re getting a broader perspective and starting to understand where their parents are coming from. Really what’s happening is that they’re both meeting each other where they are. So parents are meeting their teens where they are, and teens are beginning to understand where their parents are and what the role is that they may be playing. And of course, this doesn’t always mean that both parties are doing it perfectly that each one may have to learn how to set boundaries and advocate for their needs and things like that, but that’s the journey. It’s the opening of communication, the opening to understanding, and that’s the transformation that I have the pleasure of witnessing when I’m working with families.