In this episode Gail Crowder, founder and president of Bringing Sexy Back to the Marriage and author of many books, including Keep Your Legs Open: A Wives’ Guide to Sexual Satisfaction, joins host Tatiana Berindei to discuss how women of faith can spice up their marriage. Listen in to hear about what to do when you are “too tired for sex,” the importance of your pleasure for his pleasure, as well as biblical validation for foreplay! You don’t want to miss this episode!
Hello everyone and welcome to the Sex, Love, and SuperPowers Podcast Show. I’m your host, Tatiana Berindei. And today I am delighted to have with us, Gail Crowder, and we’re gonna be talking about bringing sexy back to marriage.
Let me tell you a little bit about Gail, first. Gail Crowder is a wife of over 30 years, mother of two, and the founder and President of Bringing Sexy Back to the Marriage. After seeing a need in both secular and religious communities, Gail saw a need to create a safe space dedicated to the spiritual and sexual enhancement of marriages for the modern day wife.
Gail has been responsible for spicing up thousands of marriages, through the BSB Conference, and continues to change lives every day. As an author, marriage, and life coach, Gail has appeared on dozens of television and radio shows as a specialist and seasoned lifestyle and relationship expert.
Gail is a certified master sexpert, we’re gonna talk about that, ’cause I wanna know how you become a certified sexpert, marriage, and life coach. Member of the International Coaching Science Research Institute Life University, and member of Harvard Medical School Institute of Coaching.
Gail has authored several books related to marriage and sex, which includes her signature book, Bringing Sexy Back To Marriage, and her latest best-selling book, Keep Your Legs Open, A Wives’ Guide to Sexual Satisfaction.
So I just want to give a warm welcome to you, Gail. Welcome to the show today.
Thank you so much. I’m super excited about being here. I’m super excited about what we’re gonna talk about today.
Yeah. Me too. So, before we jump in, will you please share with our listeners, what your super powers are?
Every time I listen to your podcast, and it is amazing, the amount of people you’ve had on here that have really helped and transformed a lot of people’s lives. So whenever I think about that question, “What are my superpowers?” I get this ‘cape’ feeling around me, so just to let you know I turn into a superhero.
I love it.
Every time I think about that, but I believe that my superpower is allowing Christian women, or women of faith, to know that they are sexual beings and no matter what their religious background is, it’s okay to explore their sexuality and intimacy, when it comes to marriage and being free in their bedrooms. So I believe my superpower is to really unlock that and allow them to explore that with no religious convictions, with no doctrine attached to that. Just being open to exploring that with their husbands. And I’ve been able to do that for the last 10 years, so I believe that is truly my superpower. I have many of those, but I believe that’s the one I operate in the most, and I do that every single day.
Yeah. And that is like, such an amazing superpower, and I just wanna say thank you, for stepping into that, because, so I wasn’t raised Christian, but it is sort of the dominant religious culture in our country, and my ancestors were practicing Christians, and I think there’s a lot that gets passed down in that faith. A lot of shame around sexuality. And so, so what you’re doing, I think is just so amazing and I just wanna say thank you again, for doing that work and for liberating a lot of women from that shame, around sexuality. It’s huge.
Yeah, it is, because you know, every Sunday, every Wednesday, or whenever bible study is, you know, a lot of times, we are taught that good Christians girls don’t do that.
What is that? What is that, exploring your sexuality, you always think you know, because you’re Christian and you worship God and all those kinda things, that that should be put on the back burner and those are things you don’t discuss. And those are not the things that you explore, only you know, worldly girls or prostitutes, or people with no morals, and that’s not true, God created us to be sexual beings. He put it in the songs of Solomon, that whole book is about love, sex, intimacy, exploring, all those different things.
And so for me? I was called to do this work, and like I said, it was not easy doing this work, and it still, everyday, sometimes is a challenge, because again, when you’re going against what you know, is futile, the pulpits, you know?
Sunday after Sunday, year after year, all of those kind of, different things, sometimes you do face a lot of adversity.
There’s been times that I wanted to quit this type of work. But you know, the more I stayed the course, the more I see pastor’s wives and deacons and people of faith saying, “Gail, thank you, for doing this work. Thank you for opening the door for me to explore these possibilities.” That gives charge, that gives me energy. That gives me faith. That gives me another opportunity to know that I’m doing what I’m supposed to be doing on this earth.
I love that, and I’m so glad that you’re getting that feedback. And I’m sure the pastors don’t mind too much, either, that you’re doing this work.
You know, it just depends on how conservative they are.
And it depends on how open they are to the information and it also depends on their backgrounds, their experiences. You know you have to, when you’re dealing with religion, you have to look at everybody’s personal experiences. What’s seen in their own particular homes. If they didn’t see affection and intimacy going on in their parents. If they were abused, you know, it’s a wide range of emotions. Wide range of experiences that comes together every single Sunday or Saturday or whenever your religious, you know, when you gather, right? All of that comes together and especially when you’re exploring the thing of sex, intimacy, all of those kind of different things.
So I’ve had to really go back and look at the education, look at the foundation of different doctrines, to figure out really, how I am called to do this work and reach the world for women who are stuck in their closets saying, “I want more in my sexual life. I want more intimacy. I want to be free to explore more in my bedroom.” And so all of that comes into play when I’m working with my clients. And when I’m teaching and speaking around the world.
That’s so beautiful. I can’t wait to dive in more to this conversation. We do have to go to a quick break, but before we go, will you tell our listeners where they can go to find out more about you?
Absolutely. You can find me on all social media platforms, as well as my website. If you can remember my name, Gail Crowder, and that’s GailCrowder.com. So, if you can remember my name, you can find me on all social media platforms. I am on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, LinkedIn, Pinterest, you name it, I’m on there. So you can just find me by my name.
Awesome. All right. So we’re talking with Gail Crowder about Bringing Sexy Back to Marriage. Stay tuned, you’re not gonna wanna miss this one. It’s gonna be really good. We’ll be right back.