Katherine Golub Katherine Golub joins host Tatiana Berindei as they dive into radical self love and its relationship with the entrepreneur journey. Katherine coaches purpose-driven entrepreneurs and community leaders who want to make a bigger impact in the world. Listen in and she and Tatiana talk about the importance of self love, the twists and turns of the entrepreneurial journey, and how to serve the world from an empowered place.

Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Sex, Love and SuperPowers podcast. I’m your host, Tatiana Berindei, and today I am here with Katherine Golub and we’re going to be talking about radical self love and the entrepreneur journey. I’m really excited to have Katherine here with me. She is a former coach of mine. She’s a dear friend. Katherine coaches purpose driven entrepreneurs and community leaders who want to make a bigger impact in the world, but who feel stuck, not yet reaching their full potential. Through professional coaching she helps them cultivate the confidence, clarity, and focus they need to make their big dreams a reality.

Welcome to the show, Katherine.

Thank you, Tatiana. I’m happy to be here.

So happy to have you. I’m going to start off with our starter question and I’m going to ask you what your superpowers are?

Helping my clients reclaim desire.

That’s a fun question. I’m still sitting with it. I’m curious to discover how I’m going to answer it actually. So, one of my superpowers is helping my clients reclaim desire and as I’ve worked with my clients, most of my clients come to work with me because they’re not fully satisfied in their careers. Either they’re thinking about changing careers, like, they either want to fall back in love with the work that they do or they want to find new work that they love, or they’re entrepreneurs who are either starting out and have this kind of baby of a dream that they want to bring out to the world or they’ve been doing it for a longer time, or I also work with community leaders who are really, really stressed out and have a lot of responsibility on their plates. What I find is a common them amongst a lot of my clients is that they along the way, along their lives, they’ve learned to ignore desire and they’ve come to me wanting to get clear on what they want. Even before that, they need to learn how to identify what they want.

My core is I feel like I have come to a place in my life where that connection with desire is front and center. When I talk about desire I mean our callings or intuition, our highest good. I feel like … It’s amazing to live a life where that is front and center.

I think another superpower that I have is being a systems linker and seeing how all the different parts are connected and how the personal and the political intersect and inform one another. So, being able to see what my clients are talking to me about in the big picture of their lives while also holding the details and getting really specific about what actions are they gonna take or what actions am I going to take in order to continue moving forward and learning in my own life.

I think, also, transforming stories that identify what’s underneath us. What’s the story I’m telling myself and what’s the story I want to be telling myself? What would serve me more in helping … You know, all these superpowers are things that I help clients with, but they also inform the way that I live.

Absolutely. I don’t think they’re really something you can separate, at least not if you do what-

No.

… You do.

Exactly. And I was also sharing with you before the call that another that seems kind of unrelated superpower, I think, because it takes no effort whatsoever, but ever since I was a teenager, I cannot go to a new place without somebody swearing that they’ve met me before. People tell me all the time, “You look so familiar,” and I do know a lot of people, but people tell me that way more than they could have possibly seen me. Being able to really put people at ease right away.

I used to direct a field canvas for a couple of years and loved knocking on doors and meeting strangers and I laugh that I think I have a thousand doppelgangers somewhere that I’ve just never met. That feels like one of those superpowers that I’ve not had to invest any energy in developing.

Yeah. That’s a super fun one.

It is.

You said something when you were sharing about one of your superpowers and said something about helping your clients, I’m sorry, I’m not going to remember the exact words because you came in and out and I was curious to go deeper with it though about sort of defining the difference or the sameness between the personal and the political. I would just love to hear you say a little bit more about that.

Hm. Yeah. Thinking of an example.

Well, if we take this piece around desire, I think that especially women, but I work with men and women, but especially women have been taught from a young age not to know what we want. That systemic. That’s not just one individual with one parent somewhere. I often wish that my clients could be kind of a fly on the wall in each other’s sessions. That would not honor confidentiality. We couldn’t do that, but they would be able to see the things that come up over and over and over with clients and that piece is endemic. I think it is political. I think it has to do with power dynamics and just like perfectionism does.

I honestly don’t feel like I have a very well-developed analysis about this, but I’ve heard, I do a lot of anti-racist organizing and organizing immigrant solidarity work, and I often hear people talk about perfectionism as a symptom of white supremacy and that it’s thing that I think holds a lot of my clients back as well as feeling like everything has to be perfect in order to get it out there. And so, understanding that, yes, it’s very personal. These things are affecting our moment by moment existence, but also these are cultural systemic problems that are showing up on a much larger scale.

How does that land?

Well, it’s so interesting that whole, like, perfectionism is a symptom of white supremacy. I’ve never made that connection before and I’m going to have to stay with that one because sometimes I think it’s … The place that I go with this sometimes is, like, I want to see, I want to have awareness around all those pieces and I don’t want to fall into a, like, blaming everything on white supremacy place. You know.

Yeah. Totally.

Wow. That’s one that I’m really going to, I’m going to, like, sit with in myself and turn that over a few times because I know perfectionism is a huge piece and I’ve seen it in myself. I’ve seen it in a lot of women that I’ve worked with as well and just, you know, friends and colleagues of mine. It’s kind of, I think especially nowadays with the imagery that we’re fed constantly through social media, you know, there’s, like, this really clean, like, perfect way that we’re being encouraged to be and it can be really daunting and overwhelming at times. And yet, that is a symptom of white … I’m going to have sit with that one.

Yeah. It’s something that I’m sitting with too. It’s not … Yeah. It’s interesting to think about this in terms of the entrepreneurial journey because this is … This conversation is not one that I would typically have with a client. Like, I see perfectionism coming up over and over and over again, it’s a question that I’ve been sitting with too because I’ve been hearing people say that, so it’s just something I’m mulling over. In holding the political and the personal, I don’t feel like we really delve into talking about political organizing that much in my sessions with my clients.

And it’s definitely different parts of myself that I hold-

Yeah, and-

… As a person.

I pulled that one out just because it’s a fascinating topic for me right now.

Yeah.

A macro of the micro.

You know, I’m looking at everything as sort of a macro of the micro and vice versa and so I’m … It’s a topic I’m exploring really deeply.

We need to take a quick break here and when we get back we’re going to do the high vibe deep dive more into this topic of radical self love and the entrepreneur journey, but before we go to break, Katherine, can you tell people where they can find out more about you?

Sure. My website is CoreBrillianceAcademy.com. People can go there and learn more about coaching with me and also, I offer a free discovery session for folks, and there’s an application there, if people are interesting, to apply for that session.

Awesome. So that’s [email protected] and we’ve been talking about radical self love in the entrepreneur journey and we’re just going to take a quick break and we’ll be right back.

Just one thing. My email is Katherine, just [email protected] and CoreBrillianceAcademy.com is the website.

Perfect. All right. We’re going to take a quick break. We’ll be right back.