What comes to mind when you think of spiritual growth? Probably not sex! But in this episode, SLSP host Tatiana Berindei and healer and intuitive coach, Jerome Braggs, outline in detail how our sexual journey is deeply connected to our spiritual growth. If you’ve ever used sex for validation, to soothe discomfort or pain or as a distraction, you are going to want to listen to this conversation. Jerome explains the difference between toxic sex, healing sex and healthy sex and shares details of his sexual healing journey that will help anyone looking to come into a greater respect and right relationship with their body and sexuality. Do yourself a favor and tune in to this not-to-be-missed episode!
Hello everyone and welcome to the Sex, Love and SuperPowers podcast show. I am your host, Tatiana Berindei and I am so, so thrilled to have with me, Jerome Braggs. He is visiting us again. He’s been on the show before. If you have not heard the episode with him that I did before called, How to Love Yourself Wholly, please go check it out. I’m not going to do a repeat of his bio and everything because all of that fabulous information is there, but he’s just an amazing person, has an incredible story that will just blow you away. So if you have not listened to that one yet, please do so. Today he and I are going to be discussing sexual healing as spiritual growth and I am just so thrilled to have you back on the show, Jerome.
Thank you so much, Tatiana. I am just beyond honored and blessed and grateful to be here and excited.
Yeah, I’m really excited to have you. Like I was telling you before we got on the recording, that was one of my favorite interviews and I just appreciate your presence and everything that you’re bringing to this planet so much. So thank you for saying yes again to coming to join us and bless our listeners with your wisdom.
Thank you for that.
So we’ve got a big topic here today, sexual healing as spiritual growth, and I thought that maybe you would want to start out with your own … Sharing with our listeners a little bit of your own journey of sexual healing and what that has been like for you because we all have a wide variety of ways that we come to this path, and yet I feel like there’s so much healing in just sharing our stories, so I’d love to hear yours.
Yeah. So my journey with sexual healing, it’s pretty vast because my trauma around sex and sexuality started very early. I was taught at a very early age that my being, as it relates to my sexuality, was wrong, and so I realized that I was attracted to the same gender when I was five years old, and at the same time that I realized that, I also felt … Being an intuitive empath, I feel the energy and I can sense it and I can get information from it, and so I didn’t know that necessarily when I was five, but nevertheless, this is what was happening, but at the same time, I had the realization that I was attracted to the same gender at five years old. I also sensed in the energy, in an environment that I was in, that that was not okay. Even though somebody had never said that to me, even though those words were never spoken, it was just in the energy field.
It was in the vibration of the environment that this was not okay and that this was something I was going to have to hide, and so started for me what I call soul disconnection, where I disconnected a piece of my soul from myself, from my body, because anytime we think something is wrong with us, whether that be your sexuality, a piece of your personality, whether that be how you look. Anytime you begin to embody a belief that there’s something wrong with me, the same place you hold that belief, right? Wherever that belief is, is the same place you begin to disconnect the soul from you, and the reason being is because the soul is love, and so fear and love can’t occupy the same space at the same time.
So when you have a fear, which is, there’s something wrong with me, you disconnect that part of your being from your soul, and so I had grown up being disconnected, my sexuality being very disconnected from my being-
So I want to pause you for a second because I have a curiosity around this. This is how we talk to children or don’t talk to children about sex has been like a really big topic that’s been really up for me lately, and I’m doing some work around it and creating some course material around it, but you mentioned that nothing was ever said, but it was just an energy that you picked up in the space, and part of my curiosity is, do you think that that could possibly be because it was never talked about?
Yeah. Well, I love that you brought this up because there’s a lot around this. So you say it first like this, more than anything that’s ever said, what is picked up and what is taught and what is learned by us when we are children, more than anything that’s ever said is, is what is felt, and so that is what’s taught more than anything, and as kids, our families … Really, our families are the first classrooms we attend, and what we learn in those classrooms is … The biggest lesson we learned in those classrooms is how to either embrace and accept and affirm our wholeness or reject and deny it, and that’s the biggest lesson we’re learning, and that is not more than our caregivers, whether that’s parents or grandparents, whether that’s authority figures, whether that’s teachers, whoever is the authority, the caregivers in the space, whether they actually say it out of their mouths, that you’re enough or this expression of yourself, whatever that authentic expression is.
Again, whether it’s some quirkiness in your personality, whether it’s some aspect of who you’re attracted to or how you’re attracted to people in your sexuality, whatever that is, right? Whether they say, “Whatever this expression is, it’s enough, it’s welcomed, it’s accepted and it belongs,” or, “It doesn’t, and this is not okay.” And again, it’s not the words that are being said, it’s the energy, and so when we understand that we are … that we have two aspects to our being, we’re biological beings, which is the flesh and bone part of us that we can see, the body part of us that we can see, and we’re also energetic beings or what some people will call spiritual beings, and that’s the part you can’t see, but that’s actually the biggest part of you, and that’s actually the biggest way you communicate.
Well, and some people say that’s what actually builds the physical body too.
It’s literally what builds the physical body. It’s literally what builds the physical dimension as a whole. So it’s kind of like … I like to describe it as the iceberg. So the body is kind of the part of the iceberg that you see above the water, and then the energy is the part that you see below the water, that’s really holding everything together, and it is the most massive part, and so that’s the part though that we’re not really taught and educated about, but that’s the part that children especially, because they’re the most sensitive to it. They haven’t been desensitized out of this part of their senses yet.
So the earlier they are in their childhood, the more susceptible they are to it. So what they’re picking up on more and what we learn from more is the energy and pretty much how people feel about things, what people feel about a certain situation, what their emotions are around something, and so that was what I felt was, although nobody had said in the words that being attracted to the same gender was not okay. It was a feeling in the air.
Yeah. I’m almost hearing the like, one of these things is not like the other song, you know?
It’s like, oh this is not what everyone around me is doing. There’s something wrong here.
Yeah. yeah and that’s the … And again, also because one of the biggest needs we have, human need, we have when we come in as kids is to belong, and so what you want more than anything and what I wanted more than anything at that time was to belong, and this thing … Again, you so perfectly illustrated it right there with that song, was the message that was in the energy was, this thing is not like the other things, and so it’s not going to belong.
I have to get rid of that part of me.
So I have to hide it, right?
So I have to because the thing that is the most sacred to me is to belong, and so if this is going to make me not belong, then I need to hide it, and so that began suppression and repression of my sexuality.
Which we’re going to talk a lot about. We have to go to a quick break right now, so I want to pause you because there’s so much around that topic of suppression and repression and we’re going to dive deep into that when we get back. Before we go to the break, will you tell our listeners where they can go to find out more about you and your work?
And do check him out. I was telling him also, he’s been cracking me up on Facebook lately, so he’s just a joy to follow and a wonderful human being, so please go check him out. We have been talking with Jerome Braggs about sexual healing as spiritual growth. More when we get back, stay tuned. You don’t want to miss this one.