Hello everyone, welcome to the Sex, Love, and SuperPowers podcast show. I’m your host Tatiana Berindei, and today, I am overjoyed to have with me Vanessa Cuccia. We are going to be discussing a very interesting topic, Finding Expanded Consciousness With Sex Toys. I never thought I would put those two phrases in the same sentence, but here we are because of this incredible woman. Let me tell you a little bit about her before we get started.
Vanessa Cuccia is regarded as a pioneer in the sex toy industry for introducing her methods of using crystals for sexual healing, and empowerment on a global scale. She is the Founder and Creator of Chakrubs, the original crystal sex toy company, and she continues to receive testimonials from people around the world who use her Chakrub products, and methods. Since conceptualizing her initial designs for crystal pleasure tools in 2011 and establishing her brand in 2012, Cuccia has been an influencer in the social movement of sex positivity, self-love, and personal awareness by bridging the gap between sensuality and spirituality.
As the creator of products that symbolize the essence of these movements, she spearheaded the ethos of the brand, which is inspiring many to nurture their own emotional intelligence, self-awareness, and spiritual connection.
Welcome to the show, Vanessa.
Well, thank you so much for having me. I’m very excited about our conversation.
Me too! So before we dive in, will you please tell our listeners what your super powers are?
I’m able to place a value on anything that I go through as a human, being tiredness, loneliness, but then, also taking things like pleasure, and joy as a real gift, and something that I become grateful for
Yes, my super powers, I think, lay in my ability to acknowledge that being plainly human is a superpower.
Say more about that, because I like where you’re going. You can say more about that.
Sure, sure. A lot of what I base my beliefs on is that acknowledgment that we are human on a spiritual journey, and I hold very true to that belief, and that helps me, one, remain very grounded in this life as I move through the world as a human, but it also connects me to my higher self, what I deem as beyond what I am physically aware of. I think that because I do that so often, and I really root myself in this belief, and this awareness that I am a spirit just experiencing what it’s like to be a human, I’m able to place a value on anything that I go through as a human, being tiredness, loneliness, but then, also taking things like pleasure, and joy as a real gift, and something that I become grateful for.
Any experience that I go through, anything that life throws at me, or that I witness my brothers, and sisters going through as a member of the world, I see it as these are all lessons, these are all something that is meant for me to expand my consciousness as a spirit.
Beautiful. So taking that, I am so, so, so curious how this company that you birthed came into being? It’s not your everyday mainstream run of the mill kind of brick and mortar company, right? Making sex toys out of crystals is a very unique niche, and I’m just so curious about what the inception point of that was?
I do believe that. It’s funny because I’ve actually been thinking about it a lot, because I have shared the story many times now, and I do think that first, it goes beyond like my experience when those couple of years where I really conceived the idea I think that this was something very meant for me to bring forth into the world. I’m seen as a very sexually secure person, and all these things, but it’s something that I don’t really think about or identify myself as, so it does feel like I am just a messenger of certain ideas, but when it all started it was a pinnacle moment in my life.
It was when I was in my early 20s, and I was living in LA, and just starting to open my eyes. I think it was kind of a quarter-life crisis, really, when I was in my early 20s, and just was realizing, “Oh my God, I’m a quarter of my life done, and I still don’t enjoy sex, and I still am in a relationship where I feel my boundaries aren’t being respected.” It was just kind of this aha moment that was born from a quarter-life crisis again, and it just made me take stock of everything in my life, and as a kid, I always dreamed of doing something on a grand scale, like dreamed of being an actress, a musician, a pop star, and things like that.
I always had these dreams of doing something really cool, and big, but this realization happened especially because I was with my boyfriend for six years, and he did sexually assault me. He took my virginity without consent, and I just kind of like stayed asleep in this relationship. It was that this time that I was just like, I don’t want to accept that anymore. I mean, it was just a really critical time where I wanted to take control of what I was feeling in my life, and so, I started this journey of, I broke up with him. I knew that I had become very numb sexually because I was basically subconsciously learning from being with him that pleasure wasn’t for me, it was for him, and so, I was learning subconsciously to disassociate from my body during sex, and I knew that I wanted to enjoy sex. That was just like something that I felt I deserved just from being a person.
But it helped me reconnect to myself on a deeper level than had been lost from having such lack boundaries for so many years.
I just wanted to enjoy that aspect of life, and so, I took a job at the Pleasure Chest which is an amazing adult store, and I was around incredible people who were extremely knowledgeable about sexuality, and acceptance, and non-judgment. Like I learned how to not judge a lot in that store, because we had to learn how to just respect everybody’s varying needs and desires, and at that time I invited a young spiritual teacher to come to live with me, and he would have boxes of crystals being shipped to the house, and teach me about the crystals, and I was getting very into crystal healing, and I would carry around these crystals with me all the time.
One day I went with my friend, the spiritual teacher of this woman’s house, and she just brought out a crystal that it was polished, and shaped as like a pointed type of wand, like a generator type of stone, if you’re familiar with crystal healing and it just like clicked in me that since crystals could be polished, and shaped, why couldn’t I make something that could be used internally? The name Chakrub just kind of popped into my head immediately, and that’s when I really do feel like I was being spoken to, I was being spoken to by something, crystals are my inner self or whatever, and it was time for us to start acknowledging that crystals could be used, applied to sexual healing.
And, to me it was something that I wanted for myself, because I was getting into feeling these subtle energies, and I just thought that it would help me to start coming back into my body, and not just give me an orgasm. But it helped me reconnect to myself on a deeper level than had been lost from having such lack boundaries for so many years. After that, it was just something that kept persisting in my mind, and it took a lot of research, it took a long time for it to actually come to fruition, but that’s really the story of how the idea popped into my head.
Thank you so much for sharing that. We do need to go to a quick break, and when we get back we’re going to dive into a lot more conversation around this. Before we go to break will you tell our listeners where they can go to find out more about you, more about the products?
Sure, Instagram is a really great place. We’re at @chakrubs, and then, we also have a website of the same name, so you could just Google Chakrubs, and you’ll find our website.
Beautiful. Thank you. We are talking with Vanessa Cuccia about Finding Expanded Consciousness With Sex Toys, more when we get back. Stay tuned.
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