All too often, the holiday season creates an additional layer of stress and dysfunction to family matters. But what if it didn’t need to be that way? In this episode of Disrupt Reality, host Tonya Dawn Recla introduces the next IM Series, Family Matters. From learning how to manage our expectations to endeavoring to come from love first, families present an amazing playground for us to master interaction and connection with others in alignment with Spirit. If you’re not getting our IM Series weekly messages to your inbox, take advantage of this free video training that encourages you to live life at a higher frequency. Go to superpowerexperts.com/messages so you don’t miss this powerful series that reminds us that Family Matters.
Hello, everyone. This is Tonya Dawn Recla, your Super Power Expert, and I’m talking today about the next IM Series, Family Matters.
Whew! Holy cannoli. If all of you didn’t get a little bit lit up this year in the family space around a lack of family, too much family, too much togetherness with your family, not enough time with your family. Like it just didn’t matter. There was stuff everywhere that this pandemic kicked up for folks. And especially in this holiday season. We just wrapped up the gift of gratitude, and it’s just really crucial that we kind of find our spaces in this and know how to access that peace and that love at all times. No matter what shenanigans people are engaging in. Right? Like, got it. Some of our family members act a fool sometimes.
So it’s best if you can kind of maintain your space. Attune yourself to your highest frequency and then share that. Right? Invite everybody into that space. It’s not always easy. Sometimes the spaces that we’ve come from, namely with our families, are one of the hardest places to be this in, because there’s all kinds of memories there and past experiences and old wounds, and I mean, you name it. Right? Family’s a tough one.
But I think we can streamline that a little bit. I think we can straighten it out a little bit, shed some light on it and approach this from a really different perspective. Right? Family is crucial. It is the first place where we start playing with these concepts. Whether you had a family growing up. Whether you had many families growing up through foster systems. Whether there were adoption situations or abandonment situations. Right? Across the spectrum, we all have experiences with family.
We are witnesses to them. We see good ones. We see bad ones. We see loving ones. We see hateful ones. We see ones that craft and create a lot of wounds. All kinds of stuff. Right? So, recognize that family means very different things to a whole lot of people.
So we take that into account when we address things like family. Right? Of course, we’re uplifting this in the space of ideally you have this environment where your best self is fed and fostered and loved and stewarded and really held and supported as kind of a stepping stone into experiencing that with the divine. The Bible talks a lot about how parents are that kind of bridge. Right? That segue. You obey your parents so you learn how to obey a Heavenly Father. Right?
Not everybody can get behind that concept. But think about it in the respect of like, what if that’s the playground. Right? What if that’s where we get to sit and say, “I don’t like this a whole lot. This wasn’t really great. I have all these issues and it was because of my family.
Or, we could say, “Okay, why would I have been in these situations?”
Sometimes it’s just because you were strong enough to. Somebody needed to be there. You were strong enough to, and our belief is, is that you agreed to it.
Right? Those of us who agree to walk these paths, whether we’re consciously aware of it or not, we had some kind of agreement in this. So when we look at it from that perspective, we can say, “Okay, granted my human wasn’t overly pleased with everything that went down in this family or because of family or because of a lack of family, but what can I learn from that?” Or, “What can I take into that?”
I heard someone say the other day, like, “Look, if you’re an adult, the expiration date has passed for being able to blame your parents for things.”
Like, get it, that may have been part of the foundation. And at some point you get to choose whether or not to take back full ownership of your existence. I was telling Neva here recently a story about my time in college and the moment that I realized that my life was my own. Right? And there had been moments of that in high school. I was a bit ornery in high school.
I’m sure it’s not that hard to believe. So there was a tumultuous kind of, moving through things. And it didn’t help that school’s always been kind of easy for me.
So I was bored and you know where that story’s going. So there’s lots of what-not there that we kind of laugh about and talk about now, but it certainly wasn’t easy and certainly was rocky. And if I can save children from it, then I’m happy to.
But it was my path. And through all of that, the concept of family, I’m incredibly fortunate. I have an amazing family. I was very well supported. There was never a doubt in my mind that what I was doing was not in alignment with that. And that’s important. Right? It was important that my parents’ voice was in my head. Yes, I was the one who chose to disregard it, but it was there. So that, I believe, helped lay the foundation to let me lean into God even more. Right? And do this walk.
The two things that I would accredit this walk to be my discipline and my faith. My family offered me both of those. Perhaps your family didn’t. But you get to choose now if those are qualities that you want to take on.
So lean into this series a little bit, if you’re in a place where you want to redefine what family means to you and how family matters to you. Or if it does, or if it doesn’t. At some point, take ownership of that, and you get to move forward in the way that you want to. If you have your own family and you have children and stuff at home, then recognize that there is a responsibility in that also. And you get to redefine it how you want to. You don’t have to continue doing everything the way that your parents did. Maybe you had amazing parents, but there’s something different. You can do what is better suited for your family.
So there’s all kinds of variables there, as with the diversity of families. Right? That’s how many variables exist. But we’re going to get to kind of these core foundations. So we’ll talk about what the messages are when we get back from the break.
Again, go to superpowerexperts.com/messages if you are not getting those IM Series into your inbox. They’re free video training that go deeper than this podcast. And you’re able to implement this stuff into your life. There’s practices and processes. It’s an invitation to integrate more of this. To move from being a passive listener. Now go into more of an engaged aspect with it.
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So, a couple of options there. But regardless, make sure you check out the IM Series. Again, that’s our gift to you.
We will be right back after the break. We’re talking today about Family Matters. Stay with us.
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