Hello, everyone, and welcome. I’m Laura Greco, your host at SuperPower Mommas, and I am so excited to speak with you today. Our topic is how to raise self-confidence through mindset. We have heard often that mindset really matters, and sometimes as mommas, we can get really rolling with the activities in life and the unexpected things that our mindset can get shifted unless we are paying attention, and yet mindset is so important because we can actually relieve ourselves of the stress and struggle if we can create a space to continue to have a mindset that’s supportive to us.
We have a guest, and I’m so excited that she’s here because that’s really her focus. Cara Wray is a mindset and business coach working with powerful and ambitious online female entrepreneurs teaching and guiding them to create the wealth and abundance they deserve in their business and bank account. She is a wife and a mother of four children. She just had a baby in the fall. Cara believes in empowering women and that your mindset is one of the most valuable tools available in your back pocket. She just recently launched her podcast, The Sacred Mama Podcast. Welcome, Cara. We are so excited to have you here.
Thank you. I’m so excited to be here. This is going to be a great conversation today.
Yes, and I’m so pleased that we’re going to have this conversation. You have been all over Facebook, really, enthusiastically sharing your wisdom, and people appreciate that enthusiasm. I would like to say too, that mindset, it’s such a powerful thing, isn’t it?
Oh, extremely. Especially when it’s nurtured.
Yeah. When we think about how to raise our self-confidence through mindset, that’s what we’re going to be talking about.
Yeah.
Yeah, but before we dive into that conversation, I’d like to ask you, what’s your momma superpower?
Oh. That is a great question. I would have to say my superpower is actually taking care of myself first. I feel like placing myself as a priority has been my superpower because it has impacted my relationship with my husband, with my children in ways that are sometimes difficult to describe, and by that, I mean in some of the most positive ways. My superpower is actually self-prioritization.
Very, very, very, very… I don’t even know how many times to say it… very, very good, and very… and I think that’s what you’re mostly speaking to when I see you on Facebook coming up in my feed, is that that’s what you’re looking to promote, so what you’re living-
You are sharing.
Yep.
How has that actually helped you as a mom? Let’s just take a dive back into your… so you said a little bit about that. Let’s expand that a little bit.
When I first had my daughter, I really had the mindset and really the… I’d taken on a societal belief that I had to basically serve my children and serve my husband and do all the motherhood things before I could take care of myself, which then landed me feeling very overwhelmed, very depleted, stressed, anxious. Then there was tension between myself and my husband. There was tension between myself and my kids. I was angry. I was yelling. It just wasn’t a healthy environment. The reason why it wasn’t a healthy environment is because I wasn’t taking care of myself. I wasn’t a priority to myself, and it affected every facet of my life. That’s really where it started. Do you want me to dive into what shifted?Â
Yeah. How did your mindset lead to self confidence?
Okay.
You can share with that, and then-
So-
Perfect. Really, what shifted when I started taking care of myself as actually when I first started investing in myself differently through my business and making a shift into entrepreneurship. I found that inside of that, it really required me to take care of myself and nurture my mindset, so a lot of things started coming up. Once I started taking care of myself… and I’m not just saying having a bubble bath and… because don’t get me wrong, that stuff’s incredible too, and I made sure to do that, but actually investing in mindfulness and learning from other moms in how they’ve learned how to balance their business, their babies, their life. I allowed other women to teach me, and then I was also able to then teach myself and teach my children.
Now, there’s very minimal yelling in this home. The communication is tenfold as to what it was before. Same with the relationship with my husband. We’re at a point where he surprises me with romantic getaways and different things like that. I believe that you could have a thriving relationship, a thriving business, and… No sacrifice is self-worth, but I do believe it starts with you. Those are like the little impacts that it’s had on my life. I mean, they might sound little, but they’re tremendous in our family life.
Say more about that, that tremendous feeling that you have.
When I felt very low, very frustrated, and anxious, there was… I was trying to control my family. I was trying to control what my kids were doing, what they were saying, what they weren’t doing, how much they were playing. It became almost like obsessive, and which then caused me to feel just very alone, like very alone, very fragile, actually, as well until I started recognizing my own behavior and what I was actually doing with trying to control everybody else is that I can’t.
To be really honest, you can’t really even control your children. You can just teach them what you know. They’re still human beings that have impulses and choices and actions, and we have to teach them that every action has a reaction and that every decision they make, they do need to take responsibility for, but when I started taking the pressure off of the fact that I am not responsible for every single decision that someone makes, I started really letting go of the pressure that I put on myself as a mom, which then in turn, like I said earlier, just drastically shifted all the relationships within my family.
That’s what I call a tremendous shift is it went from feeling lonely, depleted, exhausted, frustrated, and overwhelmed to having this sense of openness and communication and love and unconditional support and to the point where my children are coming to me and they want to talk to me. They even have noticed the change. That’s huge. Your children watch what you do, so when they start seeing those things, it was just… I guess it had more of an impact when I heard that they noticed it as well.
Yeah. Our children are like a mirror, aren’t they?
100%, yeah. They’re a mirror. I feel they obviously have their own traits and wants, needs, and desires and all these things for themselves, but they really do lead by example. They follow in your footsteps. They follow what you’re doing, and they take some things that they like, they take some things that they don’t, but especially when your children are so little, like the first five years of their life, they’re very much impacted by what we do. It can either set them up for complete success, or they’ll have some things that they have to work through as they get older and have self confidence.
And it’s all good.
Yep. 100%. Yep.
Yep. But we’re showing up… I always say this, like we’re showing up each day, and we have a choice. We can either show up or feel really great about ourselves and our life, or we can show up and feel really crappy, but we’re still going to do this day, so the choice is how do we want to do this day?
100%. Yep.
Yeah. Yeah, which you’ve spoken into this quite extensively already, so thank you for that. We have to go for a quick break, but before we go, I would like for you to tell people where they can find you because I’m sure some of our guests can really relate to what you’re speaking to.
Of course. You guys can find me on Facebook. My community is actually called The Sacred Mama Co. Then you can also find me on Instagram. It’s @the.sacred.mama.
Perfect. Thank you so much. We’ve been talking with Cara on the topic of how to raise confidence through mindset, so stay with us. We’ll be right back.
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