Do you believe that finding erotic wholeness as a mother contributes to the holistic experience of motherhood? Are humans erotic by nature? In this episode of Superpower Mommas, host Tatiana Berindei and guest Darshana Avila talk about healing attachment wounds and claiming wholeness in life and love. Darshana is an Erotic Wholeness Coach that guides women to feel genuinely at home with their bodies and experience more ease with their relationships. Tune in and listen to Tatiana and Darshana as they share how erotic wholeness is correlated with the magic of motherhood.Â
Tatiana Berindei:
Hello, everyone, and welcome to the Superpower Mommas Show. I am your host, Tatiana Berindei, and today, we are going to be discussing finding erotic wholeness as a mother. My guest today is Darshana Avila, and I am so excited to be bringing her and this conversation to you. For those of you who knew me as the host of Sex, Love, and SuperPowers, you can see this thread. Darshana has actually been a guest on that show many, many years ago at this point, but I’m really delighted to bring her on again and to bring this conversation into this space of motherhood because it feels timely. It feels juicy. It feels good, and I really hope and I know in my heart that it’s going to provide a ton of value to you all.
Let me tell you a little bit about Darshana before we dive in, so you can get as excited as I am. Darshana helps women and couples who are ready for radical intimacy to lay down their armor, heal their attachment wounds and claim their wholeness in life and love. As an erotic wholeness coach, she weaves together a sematic, holistic, and relational style of guidance that is rooted in nature-based and trauma-informed wisdom. Her work is dedicated to helping people feel truly at home in their bodies and lives and to experience more ease and pleasure in their relationships. She has created a toolkit of diverse yet synergistic modalities and maps that support you in bringing forth a vibrant embodied expression of your erotic wholeness. Welcome to the show, Darshana.
Darshana Avila:
Thank you, Tatiana. I’m so happy to be here.
Tatiana Berindei:
Yes, I am so happy to have you here. So, I’ve been putting a little spin on this superpowers question, and what I would love to hear from you is how you are currently using your innate superpowers in this work that you have applied yourself to specifically when it comes to mothers.
Darshana Avila:
That’s a juicy question.
Tatiana Berindei:
Yeah.
Darshana Avila:
It was. I feel like I want to just savor that a bit, really, really take that in. Yeah. Well, the theme of the mother is a really alive one in my life, and I am not a biological mother myself. I feel like saying that to this audience, in particular, is a bit of a confession that I want to make, and yet, the archetype of the mother, the expression of mothering, relation to my own mother, it’s all of those threads weaved in in such a big way. Part of what I’ve been up to in my personal journey over these last few years has really orbited around that theme and creating a new story of what it means to be a mother, and by association, I am using some binary terms here, like to be a woman in this day and age. That is something that I kind of feel like spirit has handed to me, like, “Okay, this is what we’d like you to focus on right now.”
The erotic is really woven into that for me. My superpower, I suppose, one of them or one way of speaking about it is that I have a lot of comfort in the realm of the erotic. It’s something that I feel very much in my years, exploring, speaking about, guiding others in a way that lets it be, well, demystified. We get to move beyond the shame and the shadows and the secrecy and the ideas about, well, is it like this and could it be like that, and get really real. So, I love being invited into a conversation where we’re pointing specifically to mother and eroticism, like what’s that relationship like? What’s that dance like? Yeah, so I’m so delighted to talk to you about that today.
Tatiana Berindei:
Yeah. I want to speak to your confession for a moment because I … First of all, I appreciate you just being upfront and honest about that with our audience. For anyone who’s listening who’s like, “Oh, well, maybe I don’t want to listen to her because she’s not a mom,” I asked Darshana on this show in particular because Darshana, you are really, really good at what you do. What you bring is so valuable especially for mothers because I feel like you’re carrying this thread of something that when we become moms, we’re told we’re not allowed to have anymore.
Darshana Avila:
Yes.
Tatiana Berindei:
So, there’s almost a perfection to the fact that you’re not a mother for me in this because you can bring your whole self to maintain and carry that thread forward.
Darshana Avila:
Yeah.
Tatiana Berindei:
It really does feel like the sacred duty that you’ve been given in this earth walk as I know you, the little that I know you, but that’s really what I feel and what I receive from you. It’s incredibly valuable what you hold, and so to our listeners, please don’t go anywhere. We are going to take a quick break, but Darshana has so much to offer in this area. I know you’re going to get something super, super valuable out of it. So, we are talking about finding erotic wholeness as a mother with Darshana Avila. We’re going to take a quick break, and we will be right back, so don’t go anywhere. Stay tuned.
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