Hello everyone and welcome. I’m Laura Greco, your host at Super Power Mommas and today our topic is empowering parents to feel aligned in the way they parent. Now isn’t that something that we would love to be able to do, right? And yet in everyday life, parenting at best has its challenges and we are always striving to look for more effective ways to feel really aligned. Isn’t it true that we wake up each day with the intention of supporting our children so that they can become community members, happy contributors? And yet this can be challenging in the day to day situations, especially because we all come from families, some of our patterning has come from the families we’ve come from. Some of it’s great and supportive and others are maybe not so much and you would like to change them. However, as parents, our biggest desire is to be sure that children are aligned. And what does that really require of us?
Wow, I’m so excited to have with us today Priscille K, she is a parent coach and she assists parents in being aligned with their parenting so that they can actually work towards the fulfillment of the whole family. And so, I’m very excited to have you, Priscille. Oh, and I just want to mention I’ve known Priscille for a bit of time. We were in a parenting, more of a global parenting group, mastermind group and I got to know her a little bit there. We were published together in a book that came out by our… I don’t know if you’d want to call her a leader, but she published a book, Creative Intentions for Challenging Children and Adults. So we are very excited to be a part of that and as some of that we did, but right now we’re going to be talking with Priscille K all about empowering parents. So welcome Priscille.
Hi Laura. Thanks so much for having me. I am super excited to be here.
Yeah, so I’m super excited to have you. And you’re a parent yourself, right?
Yes, I am. I have a 12-year old now.
Yes, it does. And so, the question is so appropriate that I always ask at the beginning of our shows which is, what is your superpower?
I’ve been thinking about that one and I think that my superpower is my curiosity for others and also about myself. I think I’ve been growing up and all throughout my life I’ve been more of a background person. So I like to step back and to observe. I’m curious about others and I watch and I listen before I interact. And I think that helped me get a sense of people and why they act of feeling in certain ways. So, I would say yeah, my curiosity would be my superpower.
And how has this curiosity assisted you, for example, as a parent?
Well, because I think this is exactly what I’m doing with my son as he grows up like throughout the years, rather than just as you said in the beginning, it’s not always easy to figure out how to parent. We don’t have training, we just become a parent from one day to the next and there’s no school to become a parent. So we either replicate what we’ve received or we hear so much contradictory information on there. So I think it helped me rather than just sort of doing things as I’ve heard or as people feel I should be doing then it kind of helped me step back and watch and listen and really get a feel from sort of where he is coming from, what is happening in that kind of situation. And so that I can adjust my interactions with him.
Very, very important isn’t it? To be able to also make the adjustments in the situation and observe the child in the moment.
Exactly.
Right, go ahead.
No, I was going to say exactly. Yeah.
Yeah. I remember an illustration where someone was telling me an experience of a child who took apart a unit from the kitchen, just like took it apart and the parent was very upset. However, when asking the child, what was the purpose of that? And it was because he wanted to put it back together to see how it worked. So often, and I only use that illustration because sometimes when we see something we can assume it’s from a different motivation than it really is. And it sounds like your curiosity has given you the ability to navigate that a little better and make it a little more aligned with both you and your child.
Exactly. And then I think when we are curious about what is going on, we are also curious about ourselves. I do remember, I think my son was about three years old and we were in the car and we had just been to my mom’s. And I think I remember that because I had just told my mom like, “Oh my gosh, like I can’t deal, I have a teenager at three because he complains all the time.” He’s always learning, always turning what is going on.
And I think because of that it was fresh in my mind, we’re going back home and I asked him to put on his seatbelt and we had like an argument in the car and because I had just talked to my mom, it was like really fresh and I said to myself, “Okay, hang on, just pause right like the second, what is going on here?” And by asking myself this question and being curious in myself, I figured out that I was actually, it was a moment where I was all stressed out, I had changed jobs, it was a bit complicated, the finances were a bit difficult. And I realized that the way I was talking to him was changing. I had not even noticed it, but just by being curious, I realized that and the minute I changed his reaction was completely different.
Beautiful.
So I think that this curiosity can help us on so many different levels to figure out, “Okay, let’s stop now, what is really going on here?” Yeah, I think that’s really helpful when we want to parent in a way where we listen to the situation towards our kids.
Yes. And remove ourselves from a reaction because I can see you probably felt so much better about the whole situation. Not that it cured the situation, but it helps you to navigate it with more wisdom and more grace.
Exactly, yeah.
This is beautiful. We have to go for a break. So I would love to have you share where people can find you. And when we get back, we’re going to really dive into this. So, would you share where people can find you?
Yes, of course. So the best way to actually come and find me and actually other moms is on Facebook. I have a Facebook group called Parenting with the Heart. And there is a nice, really nice community of parents, mostly moms, but some dads too. And yeah, that’s the place where we connect and share together.
Beautiful. Well, we’ve been talking with Priscille K on the topic of empowering parents to feel aligned in the way they parent. So stay with us, we will be right back because we’re going to dive into some questions that can really support you as parents while navigating the parenting experience. So hang on, we’ll be right back.
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