The path of true healing begins with an awareness to healing. Your mind and body start to self-repair if you give them what they need. Beyond good nutrition, rest, and exercise, you should be aware of your feelings and motivations. In this episode of SuperPower Mommas, host Laura Greco is joined by Letitia Bates. Letitia is a Certified Life Coach and author of #1 Amazon Bestselling book, I CAN: 12 Keys to Achieve Personal Success in the SMARTEST Way. She uses her own healing and recognizes hurt and offers healing to others her story of growing up and what brought her to seeking healing and transformation. Listen in now as Laura and Letitia talk about the tools that you can adopt to your life to help you find happiness, inner peace and success.
Hello everyone and welcome. You’re listening to SuperPower Mommas and I’m Laura Greco, your host. Today’s topic is awareness of healing, a daughter’s journey. I’d like to speak with you moms first a little bit. When we’re parenting, isn’t it true that what we really want for our children is to see them flourish? And yet after we enter my motherhood, we seem to notice the challenges that we have stemming back from when we were growing up or experiences that we had in other places while growing up. This evidence can show up in various places like the way we talk about ourselves or to ourselves. It can also show up as fear and judgment about ourselves. And often this is kind of a secret thing, but it does affect the way we parent because how we’re feeling about ourselves matters to how we’re able to be fully available with our families.
In this show we’re going to explore awareness of healing, a daughter’s journey. So we’re going to be able to have an opportunity to see things from a new perspective. Often when our children are young, we really don’t always understand where they’re seeing things or how they’re seeing things. Our guest today is a life coach, she’s a bestselling author and inspirational speaker. Her focus has been to help professionals and entrepreneurs to unlock blocks and to live into their full potential. Letitia believes in the power of resilience, of human spirit. She shares practical but powerful ways for her clients to triumph over stress, grief and trauma. In this show we are going to learn about her training and techniques and her personal journey from a daughter’s perspective. So welcome Letitia, I’m so excited to have you here.
Hi Laura and thank you so much for having me. This is so important and I’m super, super, super excited about talking to all the mommas out there.
Yeah, and we met back in November. What a wonderful event we were at and we got an opportunity to meet each other and engage a lot.
Yes.
And I noticed how really connected you are with people and your ability to really just embrace situations with all of us. So I love that I got to meet you and to hug you and to be with you and learn some of your story. So I’m excited to have the listeners hear it too.
Well, thank you very much. I’ve been through some things, so I’ve learned a lot about how to be with people where they are and not need them to be somewhere else so that I can be comfortable. And so that’s been a big part of my learning experience.
Yes. Yes. So let’s start with the way we usually start our show, which is what is your superpower?
My superpower is healing and knowing, recognizing that when there is hurt, that healing is required. And so knowing that that’s true about me, it’s true about everybody who suffers hurt in any level, big or gigantic, right? Or small. It’s when you’ve been hurt, you want to take the time to heal. So that’s my superpower.
Yeah. And as we, as moms, are growing up or as adults in general, we don’t really know about that while we’re growing up and experiencing different hurts and traumas, right?
Yes.
Sometimes we don’t even know about it when we’re adults, but definitely when we’re children.
And that was a big part of what was happening in my childhood. So I have an awesome mama and she raised me as a single parent, me and my brother, she raised us as a single parent until I was 12. And then she had a history of abuse in her background, which I didn’t know at the time. My grandfather was very physically abusive to the children in the family, to my grandmother and to her in particular. And I just didn’t know that. So when she married my stepfather, who was at the time drug and alcohol dependent, and his raging abuse was being visited upon me, I had expectations of her that she really couldn’t stand up to. I wanted her to be able to protect me from things that were happening and she didn’t have those tools.
Yeah, yeah.
Yeah.
I understand that. Yep. It’s part of my story too. So yeah, I understand that. And that can be, well, I would also like to say that in the time period that your mom was living, it was different then. Like women didn’t reach out for the help that they can reach out for today.
No. And one of the things that I was raised with, and this is what she was raised with, what goes on in this house stays in this house. So that cuts you off from reaching out for the help that you need. It cuts you off from having the conversations with people who could potentially help you, because that thing’s in your head and you think that you have to protect what’s going on in the house even if you’re being harmed.
Yeah, yeah, totally understand that and have heard that too. So yeah, when we come from backgrounds like that, how does that affect us as we become adults, right?
Yeah. And I think, may I share a story?
Sure.
So again, I don’t know this stuff is in her background, but there’s this moment where I’m standing in the kitchen and I’m seeing her. She’s at the church, she’s got her floral dress on and an apron and she’s cooking chicken, which is my favorite. And there I was and I’d come into the room and said something and my stepfather said, Don’t say it that way. And I’m like, what? And it was just innocent. And he starts screaming. He’s in one of his like drug spells, right? He’s screaming and I start screaming and then it elevates and he starts calling me stupid and starting in with his rant and he notices that she’s not doing anything. She continues to cook. It gets so heated. Bam. He slaps me across the face. I’m 14 years old, she does nothing. I’m looking at her, wanting her help. When she takes the chicken off the stove, she then blames me. She makes it my fault and I storm out. And that day I took that vow that I couldn’t trust her. She was not a safe place for me anymore.
Well, you fast forward 20 years and now I’m trying to work through these traumatic experiences in my life and really I need to go back to her and like say, where were you? And that’s when I learned about her story and how she was raised. And I remember distinctly her saying to me, Oh my God, you thought I could protect you, but I couldn’t. I didn’t have it. And that was a huge turning point in my relationship with her as an adult that started that healing for us.
Yeah. Because what did she learn growing up herself? She wasn’t protected either.
Nope.
So she didn’t have the tools in her own bucket to assist you let alone herself.
Yep.
Yeah. We’re going to get deeply into this about your journey out of this situation, like how you created the healing. First of all, the awareness, but then the healing that took place for you. So I would like to invite our listeners to find out where they can find you and to also please Letitia I know you have a gift for them. We’re going to talk about it later, but if you would share both those website addresses so that they can find you, we’ll get into this more after the break.
Yes, so it’s atthewheel.com is my website and for the gift it’s harmonizedheart.com.
Beautiful. Beautiful. Okay everyone, stay listening or talking with Letitia Bates about healing, sorry, about awareness to healing, a daughter’s journey. So stay with us.
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