Rythea Lee joins Tatiana Berindei in this powerful conversation about how creativity plays a role in the awakening process. As a professional dancer and multi-disciplinary artist, Rythea gives voice to personal and global stories of healing. She has been a trauma and abuse counselor for 23 years and is devoted to helping people recover and thrive after surviving unspeakable atrocities. She published a book called Trauma Into Truth: Gutsy Healing and Why It’s Worth It, an upbeat and practical book about what the journey of healing looks like, where it leads, and why it’s worth it. Listen in to this amazing conversation about using creativity to move beyond trauma in the awakening process.
Hello everyone and welcome to the Sex, Love and SuperPower show. I’m your host Tatiana Berindei. Today I am so excited to be here with Rythea Lee. We’re discussing creativity, the awakening process in healing from trauma. Rythea Lee is a professional dancer and a multi-disciplinary artist giving voice to personal and global stories of healing. A trauma and abuse counselor for 23 years, Rythea is devoted to helping people recover and thrive after surviving unspeakable atrocities. Her aim to both heal and entertain combines at the deepest level in her YouTube show Advice From a Loving Bitch. The show uses zany humor, therapeutic monologues, compelling interviews and dance parties to teach people how to transform crippling self-hatred into lasting self-love. She is the author of the book Trauma Into Truth: Gutsy Healing and Why It’s Worth It. I am so excited to have her with us here today. Hi, Rythea, welcome to the show.
Hi, Tatiana. I’m so happy to be here.
Yeah, I’m so happy to have you here. I’m going to throw you right in the pool and ask you our opening question, what are your superpowers?
Okay. I’ve been really thinking about this. I think one of my big superpowers is that in my work, my creative work, and also maybe as a person too I have this ability of talking about and addressing really, really hard subjects that are painful, and then finding a way to make people laugh about it or see it in a way that they can dive into it. I have a way of bringing joy and pain together. I think it has to do with that I crack myself up. I think that’s a superpower. I think I’m really funny, and I make myself laugh, and that’s how I know when my material is working. I think that’s a superpower.
Totally, and you are so good at it. I can absolutely attest to that. I’ve seen some of the ways that you use this superpower, especially through your show Advice From a Loving Bitch. I would love to talk a little bit more about this show and just how it came about. Can you tell us how it was born? What was the inspiration behind it?
I’ve been a live performer for a long time in my whole adult life. I do these pieces where I talk about intense things and I get people to laugh about it. At some point I just felt how ephemeral live performance is, like, it just disappears. You can have a video of it, but you can’t hold on to it. It’s really hard on video to recreate what it was even like, and so I started to think, “I need to figure out how to have this so anybody can watch it at anytime and it’s tangible.” People always said to me, “You should have a show. You should have a regular television show,” people would say to me. Finally, just the concept came to me that I wanted to tackle self-hatred because I think it’s a universal subject, and I’m really into it. I’m really into this question of what is self-hatred, and why do we do it, and what’s its purpose, and how does it serve us or not serve us? Because I think that there’s a good reason for why we hate ourselves.
That became the premise of the whole show, and I have so much to say about healing, and I love interacting with people. I just put all my favorite things in my show. I love to perform, I love to talk about things I care about, I love to interact with people and interview them. I like to put all the people in my life in my show because I think I love everybody so much and I think people are so smart. I like having my daughter in the show because she is just alight full of innocence, and she really represented the inner child in the show.
Yeah, you talk a lot about the inner child in the show, and I would love to just hear, if anybody watches the show they can get a real good sense of it, but I would love to hear more of your take on this connection with the inner child and the self-hating voice. You mentioned you’re really curious about where this self-hatred originates from, and I would love to know if by doing this show really gave you some insight into that.
Oh, my god, I can’t tell you what I went through doing this show because I had to totally go through what I was explaining. Even though I knew about it, I got close to self-hatred at a whole other level through this show. It was really intense for me. Let’s see, so one thing I encourage people and show them how do to on the show is to externalize your self-hating voice because most people hide that part of themselves from themselves. I really acted out the self-hating voice, like the part that goes, “You suck. You’re a fucking asshole. Oh, give it up. You’ll never get where you want to go. Nobody loves you. You’re ugly. You’re fat,” whatever, just like the criticizing voice, and have people act it out. I did it in a really real way. I did not-
It’s a hilarious way, too.