Rebuilding Trust in Relationships
Does rebuilding trust in relationships always complicated? In this episode of the Reclamation, The Reclas: Justin, Tonya, and Neva sit together to talk about the beauty and messiness of relationships. Every time two or more people get together, a beautiful exponential component exists alongside messiness. So, we need to use the energetic piece between people to address the chaos. Then, harmony will flourish, which paves the way to restore trust. Tune in to know how to own up to your misstep and rebuild trust in relationships.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Hello, everyone, and welcome back to the Reclamation Show. We’re so glad that you’re joining us here again. And with us is my lovely, beautiful family, and my hubby, Justin.
Justin Recla:Â
Hello.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
And my beautiful daughter Neva.
Neva Lee Recla:
Hi.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
We are all here today, really excited to talk about this topic because it keeps coming up in us and in the world and in relationships that we see. And so we’re going to talk today, all about rebuilding trust in relationships. Globally, we see this happening. There have been some things that we’ve done to each other that weren’t nice. And sometimes that means we have to rebuild trust, right? We may really want to just be forgiven and forget about it and move on right away. But sometimes there are relationship aspects that need to be tended to. This is true globally. This is true organizationally. This is true in families, in marriages, in couplings.
This is true every time two people get together, two or more people, right? There is this component, this beautiful, exponential component that happens when we come together. And also, there’s the messiness; And so we’re invited to address that messiness from that promise of the fact that there is an energetic, exponential factor when we come together. We’re like a force multiplier when we come together. If we can harmonize within those spaces, and a lot of times, that means rebuilding trust. So I want to start with Neva. I’m going to ask you, what does rebuilding trust mean to you? Because it’s an intricate thing, I think we assume that we know what we’re talking about.
Neva Lee Recla:
I think that building trust in relationships is re-walking along the stepping stones that had already been placed to make the relationship possible. I think it’s like, “Okay. This has been tarnished. Now we need to work together to rebuild it into something newer and better.”
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Okay. I can see that. And so you said building trust and then rebuilding trust. They are similar, but also a little bit different. Because in the initial building of trust, it’s a clean slate. In the rebuilding of trust, something has occurred. The fissure has happened. And so that’s a little bit of a nuance difference. Justin, what does it mean to you?
Neva Lee Recla:
I really like the analogy, and I can see that, is that in our relationships, we have these energies that we carry in how our relationships exist, right? It’s a loop per se of where the energy’s going and going and going. I liked how you said the stepping path because I could see that. It’s like the record skipped, right? And the more times trust is broken, now you’ve got a scratched record. It doesn’t play very well, right? And so rebuilding trust is going back to those moments and rebuilding and polishing and owning the fact that whatever the misstep was, atoning for it and putting something up.
Every time there’s a misstep, the easiest way to rebuild trust is to own up to it, shore up the relationship through the atonement, and then don’t do it again. Because you could put the reinforcement, the atonement pieces, the reinforcement in the relationship. But then if you go back and do it again, well, that means your reinforcement wasn’t very secure, wasn’t very solid, and didn’t really mean much because it was just a bandaid and not necessarily a reinforcement. And so I see it from an energetic and frequent thing and stories of, what does it serve us to pretend that the trust was lost, especially if we were the ones that caused the triggering event?
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Pretend the trust was lost or was not?
Justin Recla:Â
I mean, what wasn’t lost. Because our egos want to be right rather than be in the relationship.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Yeah. It’s uncomfortable to be called on something that you did, right? Nobody likes that. And so I like that analogy, too. We’re going to expand on it after the break. Right now, make sure you’ve gone over to superpowerexperts.com and got registered for the experience. People just keep coming back for more. It is very delicious, but seating is limited. Keep that in mind. And it is incredible. Excuse me. I get so excited. So if you want to know what it feels like to experience the energy, the feeling that allows for superpowers to be possible, sign up for the next experience. You will want to be there. You can thank us later. All right, folks. We’re going to run to a break. We’re talking all about rebuilding trust in relationships, and we’ll come right back.
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