What does doing it all mean to you? In this episode of Reclamation, the Reclas: Tonya, Justin, and Neva are talking about doing it all. Neva shares how much she desires to do it all especially with the excitement of starting a new school year and through this conversation she realizes that doing it all requires managing expectations. Tonya shares that the relationship that you have with expectations has to do with how you develop your desires. In contrast, Justin questions that the idea of expectations in itself essentially sets you up for failure. Check out this episode to learn more about setting your internal expectations to gain divine clarity.Â
Hello everybody. This is Neva Lee Recla and you are listening to Reclamation. I am so excited for yet another episode. Thank you to everybody for listening with us, talking with us today. And I’m here with my mom.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Tonya Dawn Recla.
Neva Lee Recla:
And my dad.
Justin Recla:
Justin Recla.
Neva Lee Recla:
And today we’re going to be talking all about doing it all. What does that entail folks? I find for me, I love doing it all. Especially since school just started back up for me. And wanting to do everything I possibly can. Get school done and get work done. Hang out with friends. Serve at church. Do everything I want to do. But I think I had to realize that with that comes also managing expectations because with all the new excitement of school starting back up, it also takes wanting to do the work to get what you want to happen, to happen. And that goes beyond the topic of school, that can be with work, just regular life, relationships, it can be with everything.
So, Mom, I’m going to pass a question on to you. How do you handle expectations of when you want to get everything done?
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Oh, I think that’s a fabulous question. I think the relationship that you have with expectations has to do with how you develop what it is that you want. And we approach that from different levels depending on where we’re at with our walk. So in my experience, a big part of my journey has been to relinquish wants and needs and to move my will into alignment with divine will. And so my experience with expectations is very different. I expect that I am going to continue to give myself 100% on that journey. That is my expectation for me. Sometimes I miss that mark, right?
Neva Lee Recla:
Yeah.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
And so I self-correct, or you all assist me in that, but the expectations in terms of how they materialize in the projection really are no concern to me. It’s all just a part of the game in my mind.Â
And so the expectations that I hold are a little bit different than I think how most people look at it, but the same rules apply. If I have attachments to it, or if I want to beat myself up for missing the mark, or if I want to over-applaud myself or, “Yo thata girl. I’m doing so great.” And in any way, take it back into myself as though it was me doing it, as though I had that creative ability as my human-self, then the same thing applies. And I get an opportunity to course correct, right?
Neva Lee Recla:
Yeah.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
I get something back from Spirit or the universe that says, “Well, maybe you’re a little bit off track here.” And so I think that regardless of where you lay in your relationship with expectations, there’s a necessary cause and effect that once you realize it, then you get to be in further choice with it.
Neva Lee Recla:
Yeah, I agree. And I think with expectations, especially when it comes to work or school, I guess school can work. Is when you want something to happen, but you have a giant workload or something. So you set unrealistic expectations for how it’s going to happen and then you feel disappointed in yourself when it doesn’t go that way. I think kids, this is something we can work on or anybody in school or work. Its focuses on releasing those expectations because usually it’ll go how you wanted it to, but it normally won’t if you expect it to go a certain way. And then if it doesn’t go the way you want it to, you just are left feeling disappointed.
And so focus on the now not what can I do during the weekend? Focus on the now and how do you work towards getting that to happen and guess what? It’s probably going to happen however it’s supposed to, whether you like it or not because that’s just how life plays out, I’ve realized. Dad, what are your thoughts on this?
Justin Recla:
Well, I think you’re spot on though. I think the idea of expectations in itself is essentially setting yourself up for failure. Because like you said, it’s going to go, how it’s going to go. If you show up. If you do the work if you commit to moving the needle forward in all things. I like Mom’s take on expectations to where she knows she’s got her own internal expectations. Knowing that she’s committed to walking towards that connection with the divine in all things at all times, but that’s within herself. But what shows up in the projections, and I think this is where most people fall short is that they have, like you said unrealistic expectations, either from lack of experience or big-eyed dreams or whatever it might be. And then when it doesn’t happen exactly as it should, of course, it always happens exactly as it should, right?
Neva Lee Recla:
Yeah.
Justin Recla:
But when it doesn’t meet up to the expectations that one set for oneself in seeing whatever the result is in the projection, it does lead to disappointment. And it starts to create a story internally that, “I can never, this won’t ever, every time I do this, this happens.” And it starts to create these stories that we start to believe about ourself and they’re just not true. This is why everything that we do and I like Mom’s version of expectations is internal, is turning that over to God. Turn that over to the divine, right?
Neva Lee Recla:
Yeah.
Justin Recla:
Meet his expectations and meet their expectations, meet the universe’s expectations as to what it’s going to go, knowing that pronoia. Knowing that the universe is conspiring for you, not against you. And it’s only when we put our own thoughts, our own minds, our beliefs, our own wants, our own desires, our own expectations into the middle that we falter.
Neva Lee Recla:
Yeah. That’s a really great point. And we are going to get into a break soon, but when it comes to expectations, try not to have any, because everything’s going to go exactly how it’s supposed to. And I find for me if I have an expectation towards the end of the week that something’s going to happen, but I don’t get all my schoolwork done so it doesn’t end up happening. Then a little story gets implanted in my brain that, “Oh, then there’s no point to doing this work because I’m never going to get what I want with it.” Versus if you just release your expectations, then it typically goes exactly how you want it to.
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