LTN – Using Your Command Voice
How can you protect yourself using your command voice? In this episode of Leave it To Neva, Neva Lee Recla welcomes guest, Maria Crimi Speth, to talk about using your voice when things get scary. We often get comfortable in silence by hiding our words and sitting in the backseat. Particularly, being a female in male-dominated areas can feel unsafe. Let us make the dark corners safer by being respectful of each other. But when things go sideways, do not forget to stand your ground. Tune in to know when and how to use your command voice for yourself!
Neva Lee Recla:
Hello everybody, welcome back to the Leave it to Neva show. I’m your host, Neva Lee Recla, and I am quite excited for today’s episode. I have with me Maria Speth, who has been in my life since I was just a little two-year-old.Maria is awesome, she is… There’s so many words I could say. She is very much, I’d say, your boss of your own life. That’s something I’ve always respected about you, you’re great at standing your ground and showing others how to do that, so with that, today, we’re gonna be talking about using your command voice, which is something you taught me when I was younger, and I’m not going to die fully into that story to save myself, but it’s something I wanted to talk about today because I think it’s such a powerful skill to learn, of standing your ground even in the midst of whatever you’re going through and being solid in who you are.I think that’s something we’ve talked about quite a few times, actually, and so yeah, this is gonna be a fun topic, so Maria, welcome to the show. Thank you so much for going on.
Maria Crimi Speth:
Thanks, Neva, I am so excited to be here. Yeah, I love this topic. I love the idea of standing your ground, especially for women, and those of us, I’m in a field that’s not typically dominated by women. So I’m an attorney, and there’s lots and lots of women attorneys, but I’m an altar, so that means I’m in court a lot, and I am in disputes and helping my clients with disputes, and then I do that in the intellectual property field and the technology field, and so at my level where I’m there are not a lot of women who do that, here are in, but statistically, a smaller number, and I will find myself in a court room full of men very often, also where I’ve gotten to in my career at my level of being practicing office longer than I wanna admit, but there 35 years or 34 years, and being a shareholder in my law firm, it’s 20% of all 50% of women who come out of law school. I’m sorry, 50% of the people who come out of law school or women, and then when your partner level, it’s a smaller number when you get to the shareholder level, which is the highest level, it’s only 20%, so find myself in board rooms, meetings and courtrooms with a bunch of men, and it’s very, very important to have your voice heard, and it doesn’t always come naturally to those of us women who are my age who are not naturally taught to use their voice, and in fact, we were discouraged from using our voices in my generation, because it wasn’t a feminine thing to do, and it wasn’t you lose the game on purpose if you wanna get the guy, kind of thing.
And that’s the generation that I grew up in. So I do love this topic, and thank you for saying I’m the boss of my life, I’m out of that, that’s where I wanna be and yeah, just happy to talk about this topic.
Neva Lee Recla:
Yeah, thank you. And I love the point that you’re making about that is, obviously I don’t have as much experience in that, but I relate to it on some level, I serve on a tech team out of church, and with that is predominantly boys and men with it being a male-dominated church, being female in those environments certainly is a challenge of its own, I’ve had experience where you just share it, don’t listen to what I’m saying and stuff like that, and I think with that, I’ve learned how to stand my ground, I’ve probably accidentally scared too many seventh grade boys from my own good, but I think it’s a valuable skill to learn for anybody, but especially if you’re in environments where typically your voice would not necessarily be heard, to be able to stand your ground and to be able to be solid in who you are because when you are solid in that, then nothing can take it.
Maria Crimi Speth:
Absolutely. It’s important to stand up for others who don’t naturally have an Arliss of their gender, there are some people who just don’t naturally speak up and it’s difficult for them to speak up, and I like to really pay attention to that and say, Okay, we’re in this meeting and this particular person hasn’t really said much or they’ve tried to say something and they’ve been interrupted, and it’s important for us to be aware of that and maybe stop and say, hey, you know, Laura was trying to say something, or here’s a great one, somebody… Typically, a woman says something and everybody sort of glosses over like it wasn’t even said, and then five minutes later, one of the guys with the big booming boy voice says the same thing and everybody says, Oh, that’s a great idea. To situations, I like to say, Hey, that sounds like the same idea that Laura just had a couple of minutes ago at month, good idea, ’cause two people had it in a way of nicely saying that wasn’t originally your idea. Yeah.
Neva Lee Recla:
I love that, I think. And there is a level of delicacy that people get to master on their own, and I think there’s a way to go about it where it’s like you can stand, you count respectfully of others. And I think that’s a really important skill to learn. Absolutely. So actually, I think why don’t we go to a break now, and then when we come back. I have a few questions for you. Does that sound good? That’s good. Awesome, so before we go to break. Where can people go to find out more about you?
Maria Crimi Speth:
My website is shaper. Well, it’s a little bit of a hard one to remember or to know, it’s jaburgwilk.com, which is the name of my law firm. And then Korea crime stats. You can find me on my website.
Neva Lee Recla:
Great, thank you so much and thank you again for having this discussion with me. We’ve been talking all about using your command voice and we’ll be right back. Oh wait, I totally forgot. Let’s talk to you guys that something really quick is contract at our community. Come track at our community, you go to superpowerexperts.com, and we have launch this whole program called CEFA where if you wanna learn things like, Yeah, honestly, I yelling, like what we’re talking about today of using your command voice and standing your ground, you is great at that because it opens up this doorway of your own strengths, and it doesn’t even have to be spiritual, it can be spiritual if you want it to be, but it’s such a creative abstract way of going about your life and feeling solid in who you are, so go to Super Power Experts, come check us out and we count. Have you as a part of our community? Now, we’ve been talking all about using your command voice, and we’ll be right back now after the break.
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