Welcome back to Incorporating SuperPowers. I am your host and today’s show was all about Pitch Perfect. It’s all about the language you use and the importance of that.
Our guest today is Miluna Fausch. The name of her business is Perfect Pitch and she is just magic in the space of business and combining, what I love about having her here is that she combines the concepts of spirituality and business together. That’s why it’s such a perfect fit for this show on the SuperPower Up! Podcast Network.
Miluna, thank you so much for joining us here today.
It is my pleasure. Thank you.
So Miluna, you’re in the speaking industry. You’re in the coaching space. Talk to me a little bit more about what you’re seeing in the industry right now that’s just kind of an elephant in the room. Everybody knows it’s going on, but they’re not too sure what to do about. What is it that you’re seeing right now in that space?
Yes, let’s call this out. There was a particularly nasty, I would call it hate-filled communication going on. A lot of it is social media as we know. It’s top down. I’m not going to say anything else about that. But when we see this kind of behavior, the kinds of words, the kind of disrespect, challenging people’s beliefs, meanness, hatefulness, it really spreads across the energy. I’m very disturbed by that because I think folks are thinking, “I can do whatever I want. I can say whatever I want. I can diss that person all day and there are no consequences and nothing will happen.”
Yeah. We see this in the business realm too of the way people are communicating on social media about their business and what they do in the world. It’s not always the nicest. The languages is kind of in their face and this is an X-rated show so I’ll go ahead and use the, or an explicative show, I’m going to go in and use the word. But basically it’s they’ve got a “Fuck you attitude” and “That’s okay when it’s okay.” But most of the time, it’s not, because most of the people that are throwing that out there are doing so to be hurtful. They’re not doing it from a place of standing on their own. They’re not doing it from a place of they’ve got their shit together. No, they’re doing it from a place of comparison.
They’re doing it from a place of “I’m better than,” and the name calling and all that kind of stuff that comes from that. So where are you seeing this most within your clients? What is that we point that causes people to get to that point where that’s where they feel that they have to communicate?
I have several clients with what I call the bully boss. We’ve created such an atmosphere of competition and aggressiveness. I’m in the San Francisco area so this is huge here.
Well, I can have anything. I can create any product with no value, but somebody will fund me.
Yes, it’s very immature, entitled way of being, of living, of thinking that somebody owes us or that we don’t have to what I call be who we are and contribute. This is always a give and take.
How do we maintain our own kindness, our own intelligence, our own centeredness while dealing with a bully boss who just wants to talk trash and diss us and everyone else around us?
So a lot of my work is communication strategies. How do we maintain our own kindness, our own intelligence, our own centeredness while dealing with a bully boss who just wants to talk trash and diss us and everyone else around us?
A lot of it is what I call an inclusive language and training. For example, I go to a lot of presentations and people say, “You guys, you guys, you guys, you guys,” on and on and on. We’re not all guys.
I love that.
Do you agree with that, Justin?
Yeah. If you’re a speaker and you’re talking about “you guys” from the front of the stage, every woman in the audience has now tuned you out. They’re no longer listening.
I witnessed this Saturday morning. “You guys, you guys, you guys.” So it’s become such a habit and it’s so mindless. In fact, I like to look up the origin of words. Because I’m all about the voice and words and power words. If you look up guy, it’s an old, I’ll say British term, that is even just not flattering for men as well. So you’ll look it up. It’s probably men don’t even want to be called guys.
That’s awesome. What popped into my head here is that you take a word, something like guys, and we put it through the filters of society of what we think it is, but really folks, if you’re in business, especially if you’re a speaker or you’re presenting from the stage, it’s lazy at the bottom. At the end of the day, it is just lazy. If you’re not taking into consideration your audience and who you’re talking to and speaking to them from an inclusive place, you’re shutting yourself off and you’re not inviting them to join you on the journey of information that you’re presenting to them. So how do you help people overcome that?
Thank you. I never thought about it as lazy, but it really is. Why are we not finding better words? Why are words masculinized or excluding part of the audience? A lot of it is understanding cultures. We have so many cultures here. So I work with people and you said folks, which is one of my favorite words, to make sure they’re including everyone in the room and we’re not saying something offensive to someone from another culture. So we want to research this, be mindful of this, do our very best and find some better and more imaginative and creative and beautiful ways to say things. We have so many more words. Can we not use these words?
Stand true to what you believe to be true, but there is a better way of doing that than being offensive.
I absolutely love that. Folks, recognize that there are going to be times where you’re going to want to polarize the audience. Stand in your power. Stand true to what you believe to be true, but there is a better way of doing that than being offensive. You don’t have to come out and name call and so forth. You can invite those in that are ready to hear your message in a way that resonates with them, that filters out the people that it doesn’t resonate with without getting ugly. You see this all over social media and the people that get on there and they want to name call. If you’re not this, then you’re this and it leaves no other room for other possibilities or potentialities in that space.
So Miluna, before we go on break, what’s a tactic that somebody can take for themselves before they go and start presenting, whether it be on a video on social media or on a presentation in front of a crowd? What is something that they can do for themselves as they’re framing up that talk?
Yes. I like the energy of handwriting. Everybody’s on the computer but I like to hand write and then I like to type it and then I like to look at it again. Really take a look at those words. Practice it, record yourself. That’s one of the best things. You can hear back, “Oh, I don’t like the way that word sounds. That’s not big enough. That’s not expensive enough.” Because we spend all this time preparing or should, I’ll use that word consciously, we should be researching and knowing our audience. So let’s prepare, let’s record ourselves, play with words, get on the dictionary, look up words that are similar. Make sure that word is powerful enough in your integrity and really says what you want it to say.
I love that. If that means that you’re going to use an expletive, use an expletive. Recognize that maybe it’s that kind of language that polarizes your audience, rather than the name calling. There’s some people that, you get me going on a rant and it’s F-bomb this, F-bomb that. I mean, that’s just the way it goes. I’m just the military guy here. For some people, that turns people off. Some people or other people are like, “Well, dude’s passionate about what he has to say.” Many people, regardless, are going to hear it and take the information for what it is. I do my best and never try to communicate from a place of name calling. It doesn’t work, right? It creates ugliness. Absolute ugliness. So if you’re seeing this and if you were experiencing this for yourself, then make sure you go take a look at Miluna’s website. Speaking of which, love, where can they go find you before we take a break? Where can they go to find more information about who you are and what you’re doing in the world?
Thank you. Website is my name, MilunaFausch.
Fantastic. We’ll have that linked here below in the description as well. We’re going to take a break right quick. You’re listening to Incorporating SuperPowers. But real quick, shout out to our show sponsor, Crypto Wealth Coach, Seth and Manny over at Crypto Wealth Coach. Market’s ripe. This is the time. You’re wanting to learn more about crypto, take a look. We’ll be right back after this ad.
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