Assume the Position, Ladies: Inviting the Rise of the Divine Masculine
The Masculine and the Feminine
In the Expanding Motherhood series we covered three major aspects of the mother archetype within the context of expansion. As we prepare for the fatherhood series, we notice the father archetype feels very different. In fact, after deeper inquiry, masculinity isn’t on its own trajectory of expansion at all, the expansiveness of the masculine IS the feminine.
Or, more specifically, the masculine journey isn’t one of expansion, but, rather, one of definition. How do we know this? The most obvious answer is also the most polarizing. When deconstructing power majority groups, the biggest challenge is in categorizing, encapsulating, defining something so pervasive. You see, once something grows beyond a particular power point, it actually ceases to be defined. Basically, it is no longer a “thing,” and, instead, informs every-thing. To think we truly understand the masculine at this point is limited and probably egotistical.
For us to think the masculine journey is, or will be, identical
to its feminine counterpart, strongly suggests we haven’t been paying attention. Tonya Dawn Recla
This is partly due to the fact that we can’t understand the feminine as something separate from the masculine, because it only exists in relationship to the masculine and, in recent and historical memory, as overpowered by the masculine. That’s why the feminine journey feels like one of expansion. It had to grow and take up some more space, before we could start sensing it more deeply within a heavily dominated masculine physical, energetic and symbolic environment. By contrast, with the masculine as the foundation, we can’t help but sense it. No need for expansion because we can’t get away from it, no matter how hard we try. Now, before you start shouting, “Amen” and burning what’s left of your bras, recognize we’ve also never really had to look at it because it’s always been there. Always. To suggest otherwise is just stubborn.
Understanding ALL of the Masculine
Until we’re ready to acknowledge the cost of being the foundation, the support, the cornerstone, the foundation upon which all of us stand — the one who gave his love, his strength, his grace, his son, his blood, his foreskin, even his rib, to form the very ground upon which we tread — we’re not ready to understand the masculine.
And if the hyper-Biblical, patriarchal, Christian audacity offends your modern sensibilities, try to separate any — any — aspect of existence from it. Whether you believe the whole story or not, the undeniable pervasiveness of it means it informs the very fabric of our existence. Therefore making it both crucial and impossible to define.
We cannot define the masculine without considering both the impact we have upon it and the roles we demand from it. Argue if you’d like, resist if you will, but this has never been and will never be a simple conversation because it cannot exist devoid from our own perception, participation, and perpetuation. For one very poignant and damning piece of evidence exists to slap us in the face with shocking truth were we just bold enough to receive it.
We don’t know how to separate our relationship with the masculine from our relationships with the men who carry it and the roles we ask them to play.
We don’t agree with how they do things, but still we expect them to do it. We think they’re too violent, too competitive, too loud, too assuming, too macho when they pound their chests, override us, and conquer, but countries, societies, whole worlds were created, and we’re here today, because they did. We think they’re callous, insensitive, vulgar, disrespectful, assuming and emotionally inept, but they learn very early that they’re disposable and expected to cut themselves off from everything they love if duty calls them to deal with whatever ugly situation arises, and we’re here today because they do…every time.
The Enemy Lies Within
The consolation prize awarded to power minority groups is that they benefit from the existence created during their oppression (good, bad, ugly, doesn’t matter, it’s a created existence) and are free to critique the methodologies that created it. Until it becomes their responsibility. And, inevitably, in situations where the energetic, archetypal variables that created the power majority’s characteristics to begin with aren’t dealt with, the usurpers do exactly the same thing as their predecessors. Proving, indeed, the enemy lies within.
Are we ready to learn from this historic pattern? Are we ready to do things differently?
Are we ready to acknowledge that it’s entirely too convenient to think the answer lies in battling each other for supremacy when that tactic keeps all of us imprisoned within the exact same torment we started, thus necessitating a perpetual dynamic of us versus them.
The resounding response to those questions is always: “YES! Yes, we’re ready!” Until you tell people what a move like that actually requires.
You see, it ultimately requires us to let go. It means acknowledging we don’t actually know what comes next and, even if we have a strongly guided sense, we can only see through our own lens. If we’d like to experience a world where the masculine joins with the feminine in a high-vibrational, fully integrated space, all we can do is first attain that ourselves, hold the space, open the door and invite them in. We can’t push, we can’t pull, we can’t stomp our feet, we can’t pout, we can’t seduce, we can’t withhold, we can’t belittle, we can’t beg, and we can’t allow our broken hearts or jaded minds to dictate what comes next. All we can do is invite them in.
Assume the Position
We are ready. This is what we’ve been preparing for. We are healed enough, whole enough, held enough, loved enough, supported enough, intuitive enough and together enough to create a container solid enough, courageous enough, flexible enough, expansive enough, secure enough, and powerful enough to give them the space they need to heal, pray, grow, forgive, teach, and hold themselves and each other.
And we will love them in the midst of it all. Why? Because it’s what we came here to do.
Assume the position and brace for impact, ladies, they’re coming.
Understanding ALL of the Masculine
Until we’re ready to acknowledge the cost of being the foundation, the support, the cornerstone, the foundation upon which all of us stand — the one who gave his love, his strength, his grace, his son, his blood, his foreskin, even his rib, to form the very ground upon which we tread — we’re not ready to understand the masculine.
And if the hyper-Biblical, patriarchal, Christian audacity offends your modern sensibilities, try to separate any — any — aspect of existence from it. Whether you believe the whole story or not, the undeniable pervasiveness of it means it informs the very fabric of our existence. Therefore making it both crucial and impossible to define.
We cannot define the masculine without considering both the impact we have upon it and the roles we demand from it. Argue if you’d like, resist if you will, but this has never been and will never be a simple conversation because it cannot exist devoid from our own perception, participation, and perpetuation. For one very poignant and damning piece of evidence exists to slap us in the face with shocking truth were we just bold enough to receive it.
We don’t know how to separate our relationship with the masculine from our relationships with the men who carry it and the roles we ask them to play.
We don’t agree with how they do things, but still we expect them to do it. We think they’re too violent, too competitive, too loud, too assuming, too macho when they pound their chests, override us, and conquer, but countries, societies, whole worlds were created, and we’re here today, because they did. We think they’re callous, insensitive, vulgar, disrespectful, assuming and emotionally inept, but they learn very early that they’re disposable and expected to cut themselves off from everything they love if duty calls them to deal with whatever ugly situation arises, and we’re here today because they do…every time.
The Enemy Lies Within
The consolation prize awarded to power minority groups is that they benefit from the existence created during their oppression (good, bad, ugly, doesn’t matter, it’s a created existence) and are free to critique the methodologies that created it. Until it becomes their responsibility. And, inevitably, in situations where the energetic, archetypal variables that created the power majority’s characteristics to begin with aren’t dealt with, the usurpers do exactly the same thing as their predecessors. Proving, indeed, the enemy lies within.
Are we ready to learn from this historic pattern? Are we ready to do things differently?
Are we ready to acknowledge that it’s entirely too convenient to think the answer lies in battling each other for supremacy when that tactic keeps all of us imprisoned within the exact same torment we started, thus necessitating a perpetual dynamic of us versus them.
The resounding response to those questions is always: “YES! Yes, we’re ready!” Until you tell people what a move like that actually requires.
You see, it ultimately requires us to let go. It means acknowledging we don’t actually know what comes next and, even if we have a strongly guided sense, we can only see through our own lens. If we’d like to experience a world where the masculine joins with the feminine in a high-vibrational, fully integrated space, all we can do is first attain that ourselves, hold the space, open the door and invite them in. We can’t push, we can’t pull, we can’t stomp our feet, we can’t pout, we can’t seduce, we can’t withhold, we can’t belittle, we can’t beg, and we can’t allow our broken hearts or jaded minds to dictate what comes next. All we can do is invite them in.
Assume the Position
We are ready. This is what we’ve been preparing for. We are healed enough, whole enough, held enough, loved enough, supported enough, intuitive enough and together enough to create a container solid enough, courageous enough, flexible enough, expansive enough, secure enough, and powerful enough to give them the space they need to heal, pray, grow, forgive, teach, and hold themselves and each other.
And we will love them in the midst of it all. Why? Because it’s what we came here to do.
Assume the position and brace for impact, ladies, they’re coming.
