You can grow a happier brain – and it’s easier than you think. On this episode of A Glimpse Inside, host Wendy Perrotti brings Cherese back for her second coaching session. Listen in as you’ll learn what a difference two weeks made for her, as well as some new tools to help combat the dreaded backslide.
Welcome to A Glimpse Inside. I’m Wendy Perrotti. You’re listening to episode three of our four-part series, Letting Happiness Win. If you’ve missed any of this series so far, you may want to go back and have a listen. Our last episode, I Just Want To Be Happy, we were talking to Cherese, and hearing her incredible story leading up to her 43rd year of life. And we dug into some really good coaching. Today we’re going to find out how Cherese is doing so far, and give her some new tools to keep pushing the pebble forward while she continues growing a happier brain. Why do I use the term “pushing the pebble forward”? Well, there’s no bibbidi bobbidi boo in this work that we do. It’s not like you read a book or you get some information and you feel that big “Ah ha,” and then magically your life changes.
We’ve all read enough books, and listened to enough podcasts, and done enough of this kind of work, to know that it doesn’t happen that way. Just because we understand and intellectualize and even sometimes get an “aha” it doesn’t mean that we’re able to actualize that work in our real lives. Growth takes both intention and repetition, and that takes time. So what we try to give you a glimpse inside of here on this show is what that coaching process looks like.
So we’re just going to get a tiny snippet of the work that Cherese is doing and give her some things that she can take in her life moving forward, and trust that she’ll keep that repetition going, pushing the pebble forward, and keep growing that happier brain. So if you’re working on a reinvention or getting yourself unstuck as you listen to these podcasts, be easy with yourself. This is less about what you’re doing wrong and more about building on what’s going right and what’s going well. So welcome back, Cherese.
Good morning, Wendy, how are you?
Good morning. I’m so happy to hear your voice. In our last-
I’m happy to be here, thank you.
In our last session, you brought up the box. You said that you felt like you were in a box that you had put yourself into, and what you really hoped to start doing from this work was breaking the box. We gave you a little bit of journaling homework about reframing fears, and I’m just wondering what came up from you, where you are with that?
Well the ironic thing is, is that I didn’t do the homework, but I did the homework.
Oh, that always happens. It’s like magic.
Yeah.
Tell us about it.
Conversation with my friend about how in life we think about things and levels that we’ve achieved, and our accomplishments, and we think we’ve arrived, right? And then until you have an experience, and you’re like, “Oh wow,” you know, “I really haven’t arrived.” Like, “I’ve got some work to do.” You know?
And in that work, in the process, once you get to the next level, that affords you options and different choices. And it’s just funny because once you get to those options and choices, you realize that, “Wow, I should’ve done this a long time ago.” You know? “That wasn’t as hard as I thought it was.” Maybe it was just making a few more calls. Maybe it was just reaching out to another dynamic of people. Maybe it was just I had to change a habit that I was doing, and now I have more options to help me get out of that box.
Ironically, the box can kind of disappear in that process. You don’t even really have to climb out. It’s kind of like the fire just burns the walls down. So yeah, it’s been an interesting time since our last call. And an interesting process that has taken place in my life personally.
I love that. We’re going to dig really into that when we come back from our break. And you’re so right, Cherese. These things that we’re afraid of … And for those of you who didn’t hear our first episode, the big fears that Cherese was going to journal on, but ended up sort of working their way into her life over the past two weeks were, “I’ll be judged if I’m successful, people will talk about me like who does she think she is?” Or, “I’ll fail in front of everyone.” Meaning, “I’ll get successful and then the bottom will fall out and people will judge me for losing the success that I gained.”
I think what I’m hearing is over the past two weeks, what you started seeing is those fears are an illusion, right? And when you start to see that small, simple actions are so much less scary than you think that they are, the box starts to magically disappear. Or, burn it down. I love that. That’s even better. This is key to growing a happier brain.Â
Yeah.
Burn itself to the ground. Okay, so we’re going to take a really, really quick break folks. And when we come back in, we’re going to dive in deeper with Cherese, and hear what she’s referring to when she says, “A lot’s gone on in the past two weeks.” Stay with us. I can’t wait to hear what she’s got to say. I’m sure you agree. We’ll see you in a bit.
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