When Your Relationship Becomes a Threesome
What if your relationship were to become a threesome? In this episode of Apple Flavored Pomegranate, Justin and Tonya Dawn Recla will tell you more about the episode’s mind-boggling title. It is not about the desire to bring other people into a relationship. Instead, it explains that a relationship is another separate entity in a connection. Just like a corporation, it has a character of its own. When we start to look at relationships this way, magical opportunities happen. Tune in to have an in-depth understanding of what to do when your relationship becomes a threesome.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Hello everyone, and welcome back to The Apple Flavored Pomegranate. I am going to disclose here that when I said the title of the show to my husband, he got a little nervous.
Justin Recla:
I have to be fully honest, I have no idea what this is about. Well, maybe have an idea, but with my wife, you never know.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
You never know. Yeah. So today’s topic is all about When Your Relationship Becomes a Threesome. This isn’t like a live TV episode where I’m disclosing my desire to bring other people into our relationship with my husband. This is actually much more abstract than that, and it triggers us, right? It does something. It activates something inside of us like, “Ooh, wait, what? What is this? Can you do that? What does that mean? And what does it look like? And what about this?” When we’re talking about the essence of a relationship becoming a threesome, what we’re looking at today is what happens when the relationship itself becomes someone else in your relationship, right?
Justin Recla:
Whew. I got wiping the sweat off my forehead on that.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
No, he’s not. No, he’s not. He’s going, “Are you sure you don’t want to say something else? We could always, can’t we negotiate?” No, just kidding. We could do all the stereotyping.
Justin Recla:
Yeah. Go back to the previous episode. Listen to that one first.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
It’s not going to happen here. Anyways, however, your relationship’s come about and certainly, threesome, foursome, fivesomes, whatever you can manage, go crazy. The dynamics of the energetics are what we look at. When you have two incarnate individuals in a relationship, those dynamics are fairly complex when you start looking at the relationship entity. Here’s why I think it’s so important. This is my sales pitch about why discussing the relationship like its own kind of entity, like in the States, a corporation is its own person essentially, allowing the relationship to become its own being allows it to be something other than either individual. It also allows us to start harmonizing in the relationship space, knowing that that isn’t everything we are. Sometimes, we get lost in a relationship and it doesn’t satisfy us.
A relationship with one other person isn’t supposed to satisfy every single thing that we want out of our existence or that’s all we would do. We have children because we want different experiences. We want to see ourselves reflected differently. We want to watch and experience life as different aspects of ourselves. We create friendships and challenging relationships with others so that we can have these experiences.
When we come back from the break here, we’re going to talk all about what is it about looking at a relationship as its own entity that really creates magical opportunities in a relationship, for you to move it beyond the typical sort of programmed, a limited experience that we think two people can have here. Yeah? Does that sound good? So, we’ll move into your poem that you’re going to share on this topic, and then we’ll cut to a break. Folks, listen in.
Justin Recla:
Very, very fitting, I think, for this one by Rumi. A Preposterous Guess. Friend, you change what I lost into a surprise gift. You open my mouth in desire and hand me the key. A strange, preposterous guess seems righter and righter. I let other fictions go. I am the contents of your seed bag. Scatter me over the ground. Let me be quiet in the middle of this noise.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Perfect. Oh, I’m so excited to dive into that after the break. Folks, stay with us. And while we’re at the break, make sure you go into superpowerexperts.com and signing up for our community. That’s where you get to come to play with us in our Couple’s Connection Group and in all of our other connection groups. So, make sure you’re joining us there. This is how we play, this is how we live, and we invite you to come to play with us. We will be right back after the break, talking all about when your relationship becomes a threesome. Don’t miss a moment of this, folks. We’ll be right back.
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