Finding Peace Together
How can we work on finding peace together in our relationships? In this episode of The Apple Flavored Pomegranate, Justin and Tonya Dawn Recla talk all about the absolute importance of meeting in the middle and opening our hearts to one another. Sometimes in the chaos of the world, it can be difficult to find peace with those we love. But when we step into the middle, it can be one of the easiest things we do. The couple shares a poem from Rumi: Bridge to the Soul: Journeys Into the Music and Silence of the Heart to further emphasize the power we gain when we find peace together. Tune in now to learn all about the power of finding peace, together.
Justin Recla:
Hello everyone, and thank you for joining us again on The Apple Flavored Pomegranate. We’re so glad to have you here with us. And today’s conversation is delightful. I’m very excited about this because I believe a core element of all very successful relationships is our ability to be together. And so, this conversation’s all-around finding peace together because a lot of times we spend time together, but how much are we really, truly at peace, down at a cellular level in each other’s existence? And so, that’s the big topic of conversation today.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
Just being together, right?
Justin Recla:
Just being.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
How do you just be together?
Justin Recla:
And they’re getting us at a really good time because we had a beautiful, beautiful new moon ceremony in our community last night, led by Tatiana Berindei. And so, that yummy kind of flow feeling that you’re experiencing as we are experiencing it, it comes from that place of being able to join together with others and feeling connected and feeling invigorated from the experiences versus drained from them. And a lot of times in our relationships, we might spend time together and leave feeling like it’s not enlivening, and we don’t feel lightened up or brightened up or refueled from it. We feel like we’re just being sucked dry from the experiences. And that doesn’t need to happen in your coupling situations.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
No. It’s important to find peace with one another because I equate it to a plant. If the plant is in the wrong environment, it’s not going to grow. It’s the same concept for your relationship, and our relationship especially, is that if it doesn’t belong in that container, pull it out and bring it back to peace and balance and harmony.
Justin Recla:
That’s right.
Tonya Dawn Recla:
And from that place, knowing that we can go there all the time, the rest of the world just melts away.
Justin Recla:
And it takes practice. I don’t think that we’re acculturated to seek it. I think that we talk about what we’re going to do together and what we think and how we feel, but the beingness kind of gets left out of that. Sometimes we sort of assume that if you just throw people together, they’re going to know how to be together. And we’re not trained, and we’re not schooled in this. These aren’t conversations that are happening in houses around the world, certainly not in schools. We just haven’t focused on how to be together, and I believe that’s what’s created some of the strife and angst that we’re seeing amongst different social groups and different interest groups. And it starts in the home, and that starts with the individuals that come together to make the home, to create the family. And how they are able to sit and be in each other’s presence really informs the culture of that family unit.
So we’re going to move here in a second to Justin sharing his chosen poem for the conversation on finding peace together. And just a reminder to join us at superpowerexperts.com. If you click on the events tab, you can find the Community Vibe Call. That’s a free call to join us so that you can get revived, and you can tap into those yummy energies that we create together in these spaces of love. No pressure to participate. You can come and simply receive. There will be moving music and guided meditations, and you get to hear a message and share it if you’d like to. But definitely, you get to participate at your own interest level and comfort level. And we just encourage you to do that because participation really is one of the key factors in you being able to move into that next step on your developmental journey. It is inevitable, and just kind of stepping in and facing it is probably the least painful way to go about that part of the process. So come participate with us where we guarantee that we will receive you in love and where you are welcome. All right, honey hit us with it before the break. What you got for us today, my dear?
Tonya Dawn Recla:
All right, so this is Rumi from a book called Rumi: Bridge to the Soul: Journeys Into the Music and Silence of the Heart. It’s a newly translated poem to commemorate Rumi’s 800th birthday by Coleman Barks. I really enjoyed this poem, and I wanted to share it with everybody. It’s titled Secret Places.
Lovers find secret places inside this violent world where they make transactions with beauty. Reason says nonsense. I have walked and measured the walls here. There are no places like that. Love says there are. Reason sets up a market and begins doing business. Love has more hidden work to do. Hallaj steps away from the pulpit and climbs the stairs of the gallows. Lovers feel the truth inside themselves that rational people keep denying. It is reasonable to say, surrender. Pause on that. It is reasonable to say, surrender is just an idea that keeps people from leading their lives. Love responds, no. This thinking is what is dangerous. Using language obscures what shams came to give. Every day, the sun rises out of low word clouds into burning silence.
Justin Recla:
Beautiful. Beautiful. With that, we’re going to take a quick break, folks, in this conversation on finding peace together. We will be right back after the break.
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