Tatiana Berindei, a Super Power Expert and host of Sex, Love and SuperPowers, joins Neva Lee Recla to share her relationship advice for kids. Throughout her career as an ordained minister and spiritual counsellor, Tatiana has been passionate in supporting the courageous women and men called to this work to help them reclaim their feminine power and embrace their sexuality in a profound and healthy way. But where she really feels called to make an impact is with mothers, supporting them to become more present in their bodies and model to their children what embodiment truly looks like. Listen in as she discloses her relationship advice for kids.

So, what are your superpowers? I know you have a lot.

I have the ability to walk into many different spaces.

Yeah, I think we all have a lot of superpowers, and when I take the superpower quiz, the superpower that comes up for me is chameleon ability, which means that I have the ability to walk into many different spaces and sort of mold and space … That’s one of yours, too? Awesome, virtual high five.

Whoo! I call it gecko ability.

Oh, yeah.

I got it confused and then I just kept on calling it that, so … That’s my superpower.

They change color, too, depending on where you go.

So yeah, but I think when I work with people, and when I’m just in interaction with people, one of my superpowers is being able to really deeply listen to not only what a person is saying with their words, but what they’re saying with their energy, what they’re saying with their emotions, what they’re saying with their heart, and what they’re saying with their body.

I agree, that’s a really good superpower to have.

Yeah.

Yeah. So, I like chameleon ability. It’s one of my favorite superpowers.

It’s a fun one, isn’t it?

I have one, but I … I need more practice on controlling, it’s time mending. So, I can, like, speed up or slow down time. So, sometime if … Our rule in my house, since I’m homeschooled, is I have to be done learning before dinner, and then after dinner I don’t get to learn anymore, because then it’s just chaotic, you know? So, I sometimes can just mend the time so it slows down so I can finish up my learning before dinner.

But, it’s sometimes hard to control, because if I say I’m excited for something, then sometimes the time speeds up, and that’s not very good.

That is so cool that you are learning to give voice to that as a superpower, because I think that that is actually something we have the capacity to do, and you really named a really key piece there, and I think breath is a big part of being able to help slow it down, when we can take-

Yeah.

… those deep, slow breaths. Even when we’re excited we can still feel joy, and we can feel happiness, but if we can breathe into it, helps-

Yes.

… slow it down a little bit, and ground it.

Yeah.

That’s cool, Neva. When you get on top of that one-

Thanks.

… that’s a good superpower.

Yeah. Have you ever felt, like, excited? Like, if you’re going on, like a … Like, somewhere that was, like, skydiving, or zip lining or something, and it was really high up, and you knew you were excited, but you were … but that was like … Like, half of it was nervousness, and then …

Mm-hmm (affirmative).

That … Want to hear a quick and funny story?

Yeah, I do.

All right. So, our parents and I went to Costa Rica for our friend’s birthday-and we were in Costa Rica for about two weeks or so, and there was, like, 25 people, and I had a roommate, and it was just cool because we had these little itty bitty casitas that were about the size of a living room but they fit a kitchen, a backyard, a bedroom where my parents could sleep, and another bedroom, and a little tiny living room. So, they were pretty awesome.

But, we all went zip lining, and we were like, maybe, 5,000 feet up in the air or so, and when I was on these really long zip lines, because I was super excited and stuff, I was … Because I was, like, screaming the whole way with the short ones. And then, with the long ones, I was going … because I had to take deep breaths in order to keep my breath. not to crack up during zip lining. It was awesome.

Zip lining is super fun.

I know. It was my first time ever going zip lining, and-

It’s super fun.

Yeah, and it was interesting because the really long ones, one of them my parents both went upside down on, and then … But, with the long ones, since we were so high up, and the trees were so high, I was scared I was going to run into a tree-

You were going to hit a tree.

… couple of them.

Yeah.

Yeah.

Did you?

Thankfully not, but, yeah. Have you ever gotten stuck on a zip line?

No, I have not, and I’m grateful for that. Actually, the shorter ones … The last time I went zip lining was this summer, with Sunna, and the shorter one actually scared me more than the longer one did, because I was afraid. … Because I was … Because it didn’t have the same angle.

Because, you know, a zip line has an angle so that you don’t get stuck, right?

Yeah.

Because gravity will take you down.

Sometimes, yeah, the straight ones are the ones my parents went upside down on. Yeah, I actually got stuck on one, and I was, like, two feet away from the guy. And my dad was before me, and then I had to arch my back all the way, as far as I could, reach out my hand so the guy could grab me. It was so painful.

Wow.

But it was totally worth it.

Totally. Fun stuff.

All right, so, I thought, since we’re both superheroes, how about we do a superhero pose?

All right. This is one of mine.

This is mine. I always do this one.

That’s good. This is another good one. Ah, yeah.

I love making it look like I’m going to fly. I hope I didn’t hit my fairy house.

Do you want to check in with them for a second, see how the fairies are doing?

I think they’re doing fine.

Good to check in with the fairies, you know. We need them on our side.

Okay, good.  Good to check in with the fairies, you know. We need them on our side.

Our old house, it was a tinier house than this one, but they had … we had fairy trees, and my dad and I can both have visions, or something … Or, like, listen … talk to guides, and my mom has that superpower as well, but … Like, we were all in the pool, and then my … I heard my dad talking to the fairies and saying, “We’ll take care of you.”

So, it was really cool, because I think I always see fairies, because one of my superpowers I got when I was maybe, like, six or so, I saw, like, rainbow dots, kind of, in like and I remember just totally freaking out and, like, talking to my mom, I’m like, “Are you still there?” And I remember it was so weird and cool at the same time. That was … That was interesting. Have you ever had, like, a vision or something?

Yeah, I, actually, speaking of fairies … You should talk to Sunna about this, because she really wants to learn how to see fairies, because I told her about my experience.

One summer I was living on a piece of land where they actually did a lot of work with the fairies and the daevas of the plants. So the fairies, from their understanding, are the architects of the plants, which means that they help to build the plants, they’re like the life force generator of the plants, and-

Awesome.

… the people who ran this place called the Sirius Community in Shutesbury, Massachusetts, I was doing an apprenticeship there, I was learning about how to grow food, I was learning about how to build buildings, and there was an orchard where they had a lot of fruit trees, and I was walking through the orchard at dusk, so and the sun is starting to set, and it’s kind of that hazy time of day.

And I was all my myself, and I was walking through the orchard, and all of a sudden I saw these little lights around a tree, and they started to pulsate, and they started to, like, do this kind of thing, and they were throbbing back and forth, and getting bigger, and they were changing sizes, and they were changing colors. And I had a moment where I thought oh, my God, I can’t believe what I am actually seeing right now.

And then my mind came in and said, no, that’s not fairies, you’re just seeing fireflies, and then all of a sudden all of the … all of that magic that I was experiencing disappeared, the lights disappeared, the colors disappeared, and all I saw were little fireflies flying in the orchard.

Wow.

So the mind can really make it harder for us to have access to those kinds of things. And so it’s beautiful that you have had that experience so young and that you have a family that encourages your abilities in that way.

My mom tells me, “Your ego wants to kill you.” So it helps me take control of my ego, so …

Your ego doesn’t-actually … I don’t know that your ego wants to kill you, but I think it wants to not die itself.

I know, like …

Will do everything it can to stay alive, and it-

That’s why, like, all the … your tiny pieces, like, if some of those tiny pieces, it’s their time to get out of your life, and they’re like … I imagine them just holding on to the last cliff of a mountain.

And my mom, when I was little … So, we talk about gremlins, and, like, the little ego pieces. Like, ego babies, that’s what we call them. And she knew that if she said they disappear to her young daughter, that wouldn’t … wasn’t going to go very well, so she said they go swimming, and then they just … and then they become lights, like light beings instead of little angry little gremlins.

So, yeah.

I like that. I like that a lot.

Yeah. So, I have one more question, and then I think we need to take a quick break.

Okay.

All right. So, my last question is, have you told Sunna what sex is?

So, Sunna has asked a lot about where babies come from, and the first time she asked that question she was three years old, and my husband, Daniel, and I, we were … We didn’t quite know how to answer it, and so we decided to explain to her that every momma has an egg inside of her, and the daddies carry the seeds, and that babies are made when the eggs and the seeds … when the seed gets planted inside the egg.

Now, the real, like, nitty gritty of how that happens we didn’t go into in too much depth because that answer seemed to satisfy her curiosity. She does know that there is a sacred dance that the momma and poppa do in order to bring a baby down. She does know that she was up in the stars before she came down here.

But in terms of, like, the real physicality around sex, she hasn’t been too curious about it. She hasn’t asked a lot of questions about it. So I’m really … I’m following her lead with that one, and I’m not trying to give her too much information, and I’m also not trying to withhold information from her either.

I like that.

Yeah.

Yeah, she reminds me of me, although we had opposite questions-when I was little, like I was-

What was your question?

I was very curious of how babies were made, and I was very curious on what happens. So, I’m as very curious child, so … Yeah. How old is Sunna now? Six?

Sunna’s going to be six next month, yeah.

Wow.

Mm-hmm (affirmative).

I haven’t talked to her in a while, since …

Yeah, she really wants to see you.

I really want to talk to her. Yeah, so, maybe after the interview if she’s home.

I’m not at home, but maybe another time.

Really, where are you?

I’m at an office.

Oh. So, I think we have to take a quick break-

Okay.

… and then we’ll be right back.

So, we’ve been talking with Tatiana Berindei about relationship advice for kids. We’ll be right back.

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